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I tried to handle a mental health issue on my own, but failed and am at a breaking point. My work is clearly suffering, but I have no medical history to request FMLA or accomodation. What should I do? Request unpaid, unprotected leave? Get a psychiatrist and try to treat now while hoping to improve at work? Something else? Before you ask: taking a week off to recharge won't work. Self-harm isn't an issue beyond risk of failed self-medication.

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Get a doctors note and go on medical leave

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In a similar situation. I went to my primary care doctor and got on an antidepressant. Also starting to see a therapist. Trying to get through work, but am now getting documentation of my mental health issue in case it gets to the point where I have no choice but to go on leave.

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Go talk to a therapist as soon as you can. That’s the first step.

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I saw on another thread that you can start the protected leave process and fill in with medical documentation after. Worth checking how that works at your company. If not I'd take sick time/PTO until you can get things lined up for a proper protected leave.

Requesting medical (FMLA) leave requires that a doctor certify my condition via a Department of Labor form within 15 days of speaking to HR. Is 15 days (less due to logistics) enough time to find a doctor and get them to write such a note?

What do I do about my project while I pursue doctors, treatment and leave options? Finding a doc, getting evaluated, starting treatment, and seeing if the treatment works could easily take a month. If my work has already slipped, and stays low until treatment starts working, that could really threaten the project.

I went through something similar OP. You’ll get through this tough situation. Try to stay positive as much as you can. I know negative thoughts can circulate in your head all day and night. Stay strong God Bless.

I would start with my PCP, see if they would be willing to write a note while actively looking for a therapist. Are you looking for inpatient treatment, or outpatient?

I would also recommend speaking to your Partner or someone up the food chain. Let them know you are going through something and working to get help/treated. It could provide some level of protection regarding poor performance.

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