I truly respect & admire lawyer moms. I see (and read here) how difficult it can be sometimes, especially when your kids are younger. I anticipate my bf and I will be engaged soon so I can’t help but think about the “usual” next step- kids. He always says that’s my decision to make and I love him for not pressuring me, but the deeper I get in my career, the more I second-guess having kids of my own. We absolutely want to adopt but idk if having 1+ of our own is what I want anymore. (Cont.)

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Our parents want us to have at least one. I’m 30 and my SO is 37. My mom has had plenty of conversations where she’s told me she thinks my views are “weird” and that “normal
Women want kids.” My SO and I had plenty of conversations about this though and decided that a child-free life is right for us. Ultimately if we change our minds we are open and happy to consider adoption. I’ve come to a spot where I am very happy and content with my (our) decision. I’ll add that my SO and I are both lawyers (I’m in big law and he’s at a V200; we both do patent lit, which is demanding).

Women who don’t want their own kids are out there, granted it feels like we’re in the minority. Happy to chat more if you need someone to talk to!

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I feel the same. I’ll just do it and see later if I can keep the big law job or go maybe in house. There’s always time for a career move, that may not be true for getting pregnant and / or adopting.

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Why adopting vs having one of your own? I get it if the point is to help out the world rather than add another child to it, and I’m not saying pregnancy is easy, but I think the 18+ years after obtaining a child (by any method) is what’s really hard to balance with any challenging career, which is the main concern you stated.

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My mom really wants us to have at least one of our own so when I mentioned being on the fence to her, she didn’t pressure me but she seemed confused and said “not even just one?” I’m just so on the fence about it given how demanding this field is and the career goals I still have… idk if I can do it all (or if I even want to). Anyone feel (or previously felt) the same way? Any advice?

I feel this! What about your spouse being primary care giver so you can still pursue your career goals? That is what I’m going to try out with my husband. Pregnant now, at a great company that I know I won’t lose status at- but still want so much from my career. My husband is data analyst and has no problem getting out of the rat race to be a stay at home dad. Hoping we can do this!

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