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I understand that weddings are hard to plan and it’s hard to plan anything right now with COVID, but you telling me you think I’m going to go to your wedding just because it’s family and you think my 1 year old daughter will be there is freaking insane.....gosh I wish I could just tell her that we won’t be going but it’s my husband’s family and I’m done intervening. He gets to tell them in a month or so if it’s still bad

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I hope you make the best decision for your family. I have had kids during bad flu seasons and covid. As my Mum would say “you went through a lot to bring this child into the world, don’t play Russian roulette with your child”. Personally, I won’t go. I’m not risking my child’s health when the effect and risk of covid are still being discovered.

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If that’s the route the family wants to go - disown- then they aren’t the kind of people you want in your life anyway!

She doesn’t sound dramatic, she sounds pragmatic. Like it or not, a wedding for a close friend is a risk, and more so if it’s indoors, many people are traveling from out of state and especially over 50 people. Yes, weddings will continue to go on, but OP is fully within her right to not risk exposing her family and 1-year-old.

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I could have written this!! You are not alone. People are crazy!

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Agree and shit like this makes my blood boil - it’s exactly why the virus keeps raging on without an end in site. An example - my husband’s friend just caught it from his roommate who went to an indoor funeral and only ONE person out of the 100+ attendees was unknowingly positive with mild symptoms but still went to pay respects... I think it ended up infecting over 20 people. You honestly just never know and can’t trust anyone to self report symptoms. I personally think it would be more irresponsible of you to go to the shower and the wedding given the fact you have a young child who 1) doesn’t have all her vaccines and isn’t exposed regularly to germs in daycare and 2) which is arguably the most important, a young child who has already had previous lung infections. If it were me, I would tell my husband to go alone.

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Are you upset they are trying to have a wedding in the middle of a pandemic or because they are not allowing children? Just trying to understand.

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Just a venting session - that they are making it seem that they want her there when it could be the same as it’s now. I just got really over heated about it. They invited three kids to their wedding

Tough situation. Is it an indoor or outdoor wedding? If it is mostly outdoors I might go for a bit, socially distance and give a gift. I agree tho don’t bring your 1 year old. If it’s indoors, I’d suggest your husband go alone and ensure he distances as much as possible.

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I don’t know what state you’re in, but I would be shocked if things looked significantly better in a month, let alone better enough to shove more than 10 people into a (likely) 100% un-masked, indoor scenario. That’d be a big fat N-O from me. Sorry, but your health and that of your family are priority number one.

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I’m struggling with a similar situation. My bff is getting married and I’m really shocked she’s moving forward with the event as if nothing changed. Of course, I can just decide to not go if I don’t feel comfortable, but still. It doesn’t erase the awkwardness of me not attending while others do. I understand deeply why folks want to take part in this tradition and milestone, but it ignores an incredibly painful reality right now. I wouldn’t ask people to take on that risk. It’s tough, and I feel your pain.

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Yikes you sound dramatic! Your 1 year old daughter has a higher risk of dying from the flu than COVID. We can’t pick and choose what scientific facts we pay attention to. Will it be a large gathering? Is it possible to wear masks and socially distance? COVID may be around for another 12-18 mos so I don’t think people should put off weddings unless they are in no big rush at all. Like it or not COVID is our new normal and we have to learn to function with it.

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I totally will enjoy using science and good sense. Good luck dying of COVID or spreading it to someone at higher risk than you!

Another update: I got uninvited to the shower so it doesn’t matter anymore...

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Hoo boy. They sound fun. 🙄 Alright, I’m southern and we major in passive aggression, so ya gotta double down on niceness (out of spite) and give her exactly *zero* reasons to say you’re being rude or unreasonable. If I were you, I’d send a gift to her shower AND buy an expensive gift off the registry just to spite her. Lol. But I’m petty. 💁🏻‍♀️

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My BIL’s fiancé asked me today if she should have a child’s option for my 1 year old daughter at their October 2020 wedding. I already suffer from anxiety and Covid is making it worse. His family is bullying us about going to family events. My husband is supposed to be standing up and he doesn’t even know what they are making him wear because they haven’t told him. If the wedding is happens, he will be the only one going out of the three of us.

Going to the grocery store or hanging out in the backyard with a couple of friends is not the same as attending a wedding with 50 or more other people! Sitting indoors for an extended period of time with a large group who will likely be eating and drinking and therefore not masked is WAY riskier than those other activities... OP you have the right idea not going.

My MIL is hosting a bridal shower at her house for her too and it’s with the entire family that lives all around the state and out of state. None of them are social distancing or wearing masks unless they are absolutely required too...their choice but then we get bullied into well you have to go it’s family when I already told my husband there’s no way I’m going to this shower if it continues at the rate it’s going

I have an invite to one indoors :(

The scary part is my MIL has an artificial heart valve and the other valve is leaking. She was in the hospital last spring for the leaking valve, but she’s still doing everything like life is normal

Update ladies: the wedding invite list is 150. They can invite up to 230 to the dance portion but have to limit the amount to 150. They are only giving a week to respond to rsvp because they have two lists of people to invite

I guess the reception hall told them they can have more people at the dance portion but dinner seated they are limited to 150

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