I want to take a break with my boyfriend but he is stressed with grad school admissions. I feel selfish for doing it at such a bad time but I'm having a hard time coping.

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If you really want a break (not breakup) why not suggest you give each other space for this admissions period so that he can focus and you can recharge? Don’t make it a huge stressful thing just a “hey you seem stressed and it’s affecting me. Mind if I stay at my place and give you space to reflect this week?”

Then decide later.

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OP have you talked to him about this? Not sure if there are other contributing factors for wanting to break up, but if this is the only one then I’d suggest discussing with him. Would also help as a step towards breaking up if he doesn’t change anything

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If you think he’s not the right one for you, and giving him support is a burden, I’d say tell him that you need to part ways. Honesty is best even when it hurts. He wouldn’t want you to stay with him out of pity, and you should do what your gut tells you.

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I feel guilty for dealing him a second blow while he's down about some grad school rejections. But I feel so tired of being his emotional support and the way I am carrying so much weight in the relationship.

That’s tough OP but if you don’t do it now, it’ll bubble inside until one day you’ll erupt and break up in an unkind manner. Better to do it before you reach your breaking point in a calm manner than after in a huff of anger.

There’s never a good time to break up- I would say sooner is better than dragging it out

Did he take his entrance test yet? I had a boyfriend I desperately wanted to break up with, but he hadn’t taken the LSAT yet. I waited until after he was done with the test which was like a month or two later, and it was miserable but worth it a) so I didn’t negatively affect his ability to get into law school and b) that I didn’t get blamed for him bombing the exam and ruining his career (he bombed and had to take it again btw...).

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