I want to wear a gown soo bad at our Christmas party. BUT a senior manager told the team to dress down. “Wear nice pants and a blouse”..... what should I do? T-T

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I mean, if most people are going to be wearing pants, definitely don't show up in a gown unless you want to cement your reputation as a very odd duck...can you plan a night out somewhere where a gown wouldn't be out of place?

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I say go cocktail/black tie. Dresses down for the gown wearers and nice for your manager. Save the gown for another time

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Go by the invite. Wear what you feel like but within the theme of the party

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Why is the SM policing the team's outfits?! 🤯

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Listen to your glamorous heart, wear your gown. Being overdressed is fun.

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The SM should not have opinions on what you wear. Go by the invite. It’s ridiculous that the SM is giving such ‘directives’

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I understand! Ill be going to my husbands party instead of mine (cause deloitte doesnt do plus ones, idk if other bigger firms do) & its at a pretty relaxed looking bar so no gown for me! Just lost my baby weight and would love to throw on my pre-baby gown!!

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Deloitte doesn’t do +1s?! That’s ... strange

What does the invite say?

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Better find a nice date place with a friend or SO to wear your gown! Tell your SM that you’d like a different dress code next year

Wear whatever the F you want!!! 😤😤😤

Wear nice pants and a blouse.

WTF
Wear the gown.
What office?

Why does your SM set the dress code ? Isn’t it set by the party ? Wear what you want.

Also who the hell wears business casual to black tie

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