I was diagnosed with major depression around 4 years ago. Told I’d have to be on antidepressants for 3-5 years. Sometimes I have severe depressive episodes. Recently it’s been impacting my work performance. I’ve also started taking more sick days as a coping mechanism since being at work seems to make it worse, especially granted I’m working with a d*ck of a manager. Always been a high performer (before this period, which really sucks). Really want to quit but don’t have a new job yet.Advice pls

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Medical leave of absence

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You don’t have to disclose your condition. The only thing you need is your doctor to write a note saying you are under their care and they are recommending a LOA. No reason need be stated.

Get out. Get help. Get better. If you keep up this lifestyle things might continue to spiral. I ignored it myself and it ended up leading to a suspension. It's hard to walk away for a bit but it will be worth it in every sense. Trust me.

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I think I might go back to therapy. I hope that will help and things will change, but a big part of me is doubtful that any change will occur before I leave the company (and the country as a whole). Just need a new beginning, you know. Feel stuck really. Sorry to hear about your experience though. In hindsight, would you rather have quit without anything else lined up? Or requested a medical leave of absence? Or something else entirely?

I suggest changing your work environment as soon as you can. Does your company have other departments or functions you can go to and work for a different manager? Connect with people on LinkedIn and tell them you’re looking for a change and see if they can recommend anything.

Yup I’ve been looking for new jobs. Looking to emigrate though, which makes it a bit harder to find a job. But I’ve definitely been active in job market. I don’t really have the motivation to look for something else within the firm. But perhaps will ask my Career Advisor to roll me off project.

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Hi..fresher here...my leaves will get exhausted this december and cant be carry forwarded...can I club the sick leave and paid leave take it together for a long leave ? Should I ask manager to club these or you cannot club sick leaves and cannot tell in advance...what is the norm...pls tell me...

It’s hard to understand COVID-19 rates of infection where I’m at or was, and the contracts was not inline with corporate ideals at least not in the IT sector. Their ideals was radical and the spread of harmful information on past events to prevent ethnicities to get vaccinated was alarming. It has highest infection rate in private sector. Don’t know death rates was strictly remote and put on non-sanctioned project NDA wasn’t signed and never knew until it came down the grapevine.

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Ok so. I have been on this journey for almost a year now to try and 'get to know and love myself' and I'm not there yet. I separated from my ex in March of 2020 and divorce was finalized in October 2020. I'm still sad, lost, angry etc. I'm trying/tried therapy, meditation, ayurveda, self help videos, books, but I'm not happy with myself and I don't think I know myself. I want to be happy alone before I meet anyone new. Any tips or advice on how I can effectively accomplish this? Thank you!

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Is there any stable project in Brillio with less/no micro management and work life balance ?

How do you not care / stress way too much about your job? I am a mom and stressed out most workday evenings thinking about the work / interactions during the day. I have heard TEd talks about compartmentalizing job vs personal life , mindfulness etc , but I don’t change. I could literally leave my job & focus on kids alone & be fine as husband is in a executive position. Yet, it’s my own career focus & my self induced stress and pressure that takes a toll on me. What’s your advice for me?

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I have an offer from VMware tanzu observability team. The offer mentions working more than 40 hours and on weekends without any compoffs.
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I just found out that I'm pregnant. I was going to go on my IVF cycle in August!

My Dr had previously mentioned that I’d be given progesterone after the transfer. I’d like to have that given to my age and history of recurring miscarriages.

Do I ask my OBGYN or my IVF Dr for this prescription? My obgyn is a believer that a baby is nature’s choice; she didn't give me anything during my last pregnancy so I’m not sure how helpful she’d be this time.

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How is tech Mahindra in terms of WLB, job security, work culture and appraisal.
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YOE - 9

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I just completed two rounds of interviews at Accenture Interactive. I’m excited about the opportunity. Anyone work there willing to share their opinions re: culture, WLB, career growth, pay/comp vs competition?

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I'm set to start January 31st. Do my medical benefits start on that day? I have to get some medications filled at the pharmacy and am wondering how quickly am I able to get my medical account set up.

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Hi all, I’m a mom of 2 (2.5 years and 9 months). I’ve been with IBM five years as a data scientist and more recently as a product manager. I’m looking for my next role and I’ve been applying to jobs externally for about a month and I’ve only received rejections. I’ve struggled with postpartum depression during the first few months. I’ve been doing a lot better lately but I’m feeling these rejections are starting to get to me. Any PMs out there willing to share any advice or connect with me 1x1?

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Anyone have three kids and working in big law? I just found out I’m pregnant with no. 3 and it’s been a lot trying to juggle morning sickness, but based on my experience, I know this is only the tip of the iceberg of what’s to come. My husband and I are elated, but the anxiety of being a mom of 3 kids and working in big law is preventing me from truly enjoying this news. It would be good to know what it’s really like having 3 kids so that I can evaluate how long I really have left in big law.

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Health stuff (beyond anxiety and depression) getting me down. Want to take med leave (dr has said yes), but am afraid of internal politics and YE. Need courage to go through with it

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I’m in a rather peculiar situation. I have been in the HR field going on 4 years, I have over 11 years of management experience, I got my PHR last year and I recently graduated with my MBA with a concentration in HR this month. I am ready for a more challenging role. However, there doesn’t seem to be much available at my current company. However, I am going on 5 months pregnant with the expectation of being out in October. I feel like once I mentioned my pregnancy I was in a holding pattern.

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I just got diagnosed with ADHD at 30. After years of being the weird one, problem child and dealing with my own mental and sensory overload issues I’m so relieved to have a diagnose I could cry. I am now getting recommendations to avoid medication and try therapy. Can anyone speak to that approach? I kind of feel like I’m getting that recommendation because people don’t believe ADHD is a real issue.

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Was looking on vault.com rankings and for work life balance MBB was 10, 13, and 15 with big 4 to be found nowhere in the top 25. I always thought mbb worked worse hours than us big 4 guys?

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Wanted to get an idea. My almost 10 month old baby never crawled not matter how much tummy time we did with her. She only wants to stand and is trying to walk (supported. She cannot pull herself up well and if she is on her back she doesn't know how to get herself up. She can roll over no issues. How can I help her? We do exercises to help her learn to pull herself up and roll her to the side to teach her how to move from back to sitting. I'm not sure how to help her. Ftm here. Anxiety!!!

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I feel like I am failing my kid by having them in daycare with these increasing covid, flu and rsv cases. Shes 5 months old and already has had RSV, covid and has been coughing everyday since I put her in daycare two months ago. Please Mamas tell me Im not crazy for being stressed out😢

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I have recently got an offer at Salesforce, sf industries to be specific. For senior tech consultant role.

Willing to know the following.

1) WLB
2) WFH
3) Career growth
4) Yearly hikes.

India location.

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We’re considering adding wearables tracking to pull in health metrics for a wellness app. Let’s say we plan on doing iOS only and one approach is only doing apple health integration, while another is to use a 3rd party aggregator like Validic or Humanapi to integrate once and get access to Fitbit, Oura, WearOS, and tons of other wearables. Which route would you suggest?

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I was fired last month after a short time at the company. I knew things weren't going well- it was a terrible culture fit & I was also planning my exit strategy. They wouldn't give me specific reasons other than to vaguely say it was performance related. I agree I made a few dumb mistakes (none of any dire consequence) but what kills me is that I tried really hard. I don't want to change careers but I have a deep seeded fear that no matter how hard I try, I will never be a "good attorney".

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EYP and Strategy& fishes, what sort of work do you do in the Life Sciences space (specifically Big Pharma)? And what sort of exits into industry have you seen your former colleagues make?

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I'd love an opportunity to work for the federal government in contracting or procurement but have found it difficult to get selected for an interview. What's the catch?

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I am an accountant - not a cpa- and a certified notary. I also have a PTIN. Are there side gigs that I could even do?

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Had a networking call with a partner that said they won’t be interviewing until 2021 for lateral hires. Friend said that’s not entirely true, and to try networking with others in that same office. Don’t want to come across as pushy. If a Partner really liked me, couldn’t they make a push to interview me? 🤔

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PSA - For those on the apps, please take a couple of days off to preserve your mental health, especially if it’s your first rodeo!

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I am interviewing at another company and when they asked me what my pay expectations are, I asked them what their pay range and expectations were for this role. She let me know she was unable to tell me, yet still wanted me to give an answer. Do you believe that’s fair? How should I bring up pay expectations in my next round of interviews to ensure I am aware of what this position is offering so I don’t lowball or overshoot myself?

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