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I was laid off for the first time last wk and I feel completely empty. Does anyone have any advice? I've been talking with recruiters, trying to find connections, but it all feels hollow and hopeless.

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Take some time to mourn the loss of your job. Take care of the unemployment paperwork STAT. If you’re worried about money, cut unnecessary expenses where you can. Treat the job hunt like a FT job. Don’t isolate yourself to your house

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Reach out to friends you have in the industry and let them know you are looking for a new job and see if they can help. Most people are willing to since most of us have been in this situation before. And as someone who has been in this situation before, I suggest keeping to a schedule each day and always make your bed when you get out of it in the morning. The bed thing is a suggestion someone made to me based on the idea that it helps keep you motivated, and it does.

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Reach out to former colleagues, clients, contacts. They might know of a position which would be a great fit for you or might know someone who does.

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Get used to the fact that this will happen to you a few times in your career; everyone gets their turn sometimes multiple times. Hold your head up and move on

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Layoffs are part of business. Not your fault nothing to feel bad or shamed about. It’s a great time to rework your site, get back in shape and be open to new opportunities. Sounds like BS I know but it’s true. DO NOT WASTE THIS TIME. I know Jr’s - CCO’s that got the axe...we all have it coming sooner or later and the only thing you’re left with is your dignity and portfolio. Keep both clean and tight and you’ll end up with more than you started with.

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All the above, but most importantly, don't waste that new free time by only job hunting. Live a little, just do it frugally. Have fun, get fit, do one fancy thing before you can't, spend those gift cards. If you only job hunt, you lose yourself. Balance it out.

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CD1 has a point. Here's my book, please let me know if you have any opportunities! I'm looking in LA, Chicago, and anywhere that's doing good work. I'm more than okay with relocation. https://goo.gl/XVsFhW

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I might add also to really work your network first if you can, recruiters can be unreliable. Don’t be afraid to apply to companies directly. But do take some time to relax if you can... layoffs tend to generate a lot of feelings, anger, depression, blaming self, shame...take care of yourself

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We’ve all been there. Make a schedule. Today I will work on my book:resume/general cover note and get those in order. Tomorrow I will make a prioritized list of my preferred agencies. The next day I will figure out if I have any personal contacts at those agencies that I could ask to share with the creative hiring managers, the next day I will Send to recruiters a b and c. Etc. that helps a lot. This way you don’t feel like you have to solve it all at once. The last time I had it happen to me because of margin pressures, I spent an entire week and a half negotiating a better severance. You have to pace. And hang in there. It’s not hopeless. You just need a plan

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Oh and be good to yourself. Feelings about the whole thing can be nasty. But just remember that this too shall pass. Every time I ended up in a better position than before. But let yourself have feelings about it and share them with trusted friends and family Don’t bottle them

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It’s not your fault! Don’t take those feelings with you. Use this as a reset. What did you love about what you were doing? What didn’t you? What could the next step look like? If you’re hungry to work then jump in with a lot of the great hunting advice from the people above; if you’re burnt out give yourself a minute to enjoy having q day to yourself. Go to museums. Take long lunches. See friends who are self employed or have flex schedules. Go spend time with fam or take a trip if you can. Don’t get too scared everything works out in the end

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As someone who has been there and – sigh – is there now, I agree with what everyone else has said. I’d add a few things: Appreciate the highs when they come e.g everyone who says they will refer you and then does. Don’t read into it too much if someone doesn’t agree to refer you or even ghosts you. For instance one of my friends got ghosted by a recruiter and I managed to find out from another friend that it was because the funding for the role got put on hold. Have you ever heard the Mister Rogers quote ‘look for the helpers’? You may find people willing to help in surprising places.... ...but don’t be too discouraged if it takes awhile. It will. Some days will have no movement. That’s ok. If you haven’t already get a lawyer to review your severance. As long as you are trying to find a job e.g. reaching out to your network and searching for postings a few times/day, it’s ok to have fun, workout, read and clean and organize your apartment. And it’s healthy rather than obsessively checking your phone.

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Purely biz and not your fault. It just happened to me, I learned a little, and now I’m at a place that values me a lot more and I know that I can get through if it happens again. Know that this is temporary though it may not feel that way now. Emotions are real but don’t necessarily reflect the reality. It WILL GET BETTER.

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Agree with a ton of stuff on here. You’ve got to network. Ask for help. People will go out of their way to help you. And know that this does not stain you in anyway. This happens to everyone eventually. This makes you available! You’re exactly what someone needs right now. You’ve just gotta find them. You will. And the new job always ends up being better than the old job. Don’t feel empty. Feel excited that you’re soon going to be handed a great new opportunity. I know it’s a hassle but it’s actually a great way to get yourself in a better place. And probably ending up with a better salary too.

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Thanks everyone, I'm doing my best to follow your advice. Send me a dm if you're hiring mid level writer or know someone who is? My book is pretty nice.

Don’t wait for a DM. Just post your book. Where are you looking? Are you open to relocation ?

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