I was molested by a girl. I told this to a couple of friends and I became a subject of mockery - "You aren't man enough", "Damn a girl came onto you? Lucky", "I don't believe you - that girl's way out of your league"

Is molestation gender specific?

PS - not related to ZS. Just an incident that happened some years ago in college, but still haunts me probably because I could never speak up. I was judged/hushed whenever I tried.

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Damn I'm sorry this happened man. People like to make a mockery of male sex abuse all the time :(

I'll be happy to talk if you need to chat - feel free to DM :)

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It's a terrible world out there my guy :( And I wish it was changing for the better, but it isn't

Appreciated for bringing this to confessions notice…. How are you doing now? Still, this incident makes you feel terrible? Feel free to DM me at any point in time. I will help you out with this trauma. ✨

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Thanks! Thinking about it gives me chills. When I was a kid (about 10 years), a man grabbed me and didn't let me go for some time. Have had a number of such scarring events in life, and I try not to think about them. These have sort of made me hard to trust anyone, irrespective of the gender.

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Same thing happend with me in childhood. I was a very shy type of guy at that time, focusing on studies and all. One of school friend (F) did try to molest in the way to my home from tuition class.
I may be wrongly interpreting it, but till now I think this was a kind of molestation. Memories are still fresh.

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Really happy to see people openly talking about it, and i wish i could have hugged you all and made you feel a little better

Also I believe a lot of time when we bring up this topic then we take it to a road, where we start comparing with support females receive when they go through such incident, but imo both are two different things and both can only be solved by bringing both genders together and making them understand each other, but sadly we fight among each other and reach to a dead end

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Sorry to hear that... Tc bro

what did she do?

That's not something I'd like to discuss. :)

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