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I was molested by an older male relative for years when I was a child. I now find myself aroused by movie depictions of sexual violence. Anyone else relate? :(

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I’m so sorry you are going through this. Sending healing vibes. I recommend seeing a therapist if you aren’t already seeing one.

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Yes. This is normal. Sending you healing vibes.

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Ugh, so sorry you were abused at such a vulnerable age. Hugs.

The two things aren’t necessarily causally linked. Not sure if that helps? I hope you have support, professional or otherwise.

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