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I've worked at the same engineering firm for 4 years. I'm currently making $161k with only a $750 bonus, but excellent vacation (4 weeks, cash out anytime, rolls over indefinitely), 45 hours a week. I have an interview with a recruiter at Guidehouse this week for a Technical Project Manager role. It seems to be focused in the government space and requires a security clearance. What sort of salary and benefits could I expect for this sort of role at Guidehouse?
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Ugh story of my life being female! Act nice to a guy for 10 mins and spend the rest of your life avoiding him š«
Maybe not. Do I understand you correctly - you acted as if you liked him personally (and I presume socialized outside work hours) during the project, but you werenāt actually interested in a friendship with him? And he apparently does want a friendship with you? Or is it more like he wants to date you? If itās the latter I do think you can say āIām not interested in dating youā politely. If itās the former, Iām not sure thereās any way to say āI just pretended to like you for the project but donāt really want to hang outā without being rude. Of course, if you keep saying no heāll get the message eventually.
Ignore him, OP. Iām having a similar issue with a colleague on a project now. One social with ten mins of talking and heās found me and sent requests on all my social media and keeps sending texts etc. totally unrelated to work. Ignore his messages, you donāt owe him anything. Donāt feel pressured to engage. If heās being super insistent, just say youāre really busy with xyz, was there something related to the project he needed assistance with? Keep every interaction really formal and hopefully heāll get the message. Good luck.
Ignore.
It always amazes me how we, women, often feel the need to respond to everything even if we donāt want to engage in a conversation. I think itās the closure. I had to work on that but am a pro now - professionally and personally; I just donāt respond; eventually they get a clue.
Good luck, OP.
I did the bare minimum to maintain professional friendliness for the sake of the project despite disliking him as a person. He acted weird during the project contacting me way too much and annoying the hell out of me. Itās very likely that there is romantic interest on his end but he never explicitly stated it or did anything that would cross the line as a code of conduct violation.
Weāre in different offices and donāt see each other anymore but he continues to reach out via email, slack, Skype, and text to check in or talk about non-work things. I havenāt responded to him in months (since end of the project) but he continues to reach out every couple weeks.
Iām amazed that he hasnāt taken the hint yet and wondering if I should be more direct. But I canāt fathom a way to do that without coming across as a total bitch
Thanks for the context OP, makes it a lot clearer. Yeah, ignore. Or, maybe say something along the lines of āhey, you may have noticed Iām not responding to your notes. Iām really busy and donāt have time to chat.ā
I had this happen once - weeks of messages and him wanting to hold longggggg personal conversations - & i slipped in ā...my bf...ā and BAM he cut the conversation short and never reached out to me again. Maybe you can do the same, whether you have a bf or not.
Brutal, I love it. Thanks for the advice everyone I will continue to wait it out. Def have some hilarious screenshots at this point of dozens of messages with no response haha