I was volunteering at an LGBT non profit that my firm participate, was chatting w a coworker that I just knew about how it was so much harder to come out in the office before..and throughout the convo

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Lol sounds like normal het discomfort. Are you a woman OP? Do you think she thought you were trying to get closer to her or something? She could just be like a flimsy ally, loves us in theory, has never interacted with a gay 😂

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No I am a gay guy. I guess it is helpful for me to clarify in this situation too lol

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So mentioned at one point that my husband and I might have seen her when my company participated in this year Pride parade...and she said she was there! She definitely wouldn’t think I would hit on her...Yea if it was a guy I would understand, still kinda presumptuous though, but I get that

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I would guess that she didn't want to come across as knowing what it's like to come out at work. Not in a way where she doesn't want to be labeled as gay but rather not wanting to offend or undermine the struggles of LGBT colleagues? In a way that I would say, "I'm not a construction worker, but it seems like a difficult job." And the Ally could have been to show that she supports the community.

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She kept saying “I am not gay, but...” “I have a card that says Allied on my desk” I don’t think I ever said she was gay...kinda awkward she kept mentioning that...but is this weird to you guys?

Allies are allies. Maybe she overcorrected a bit. I can imagine some hot straight guy comes to a Unity event and he’ll get swarmed by everyone who thinks he’s available unless it’s made clear.

I’d tell anyone and everyone...the lesbians are probably even more like vultures! ;)

So two straight woman in this situation? I think it's fine and actually helpful to clarify. I'm a gay guy and always assume guys at LGBT events are gay unless they signal otherwise or my gaydar concludes they must be straight. It's just playing averages, so it's the logical approach, same as straight people do all day around everyone. Doesn't sound like her course corrections were too over the top to me, don't worry. I wish all allies would announce that they have the allly card on their desk since that advertising is what gets other allies to do the same. In any case good for you OP for being so involved and for caring enough to ask about this!!

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