I was wondering, is it normal for people to talk about their sexual position (e.g. I’m a top.) in casual conversation?

Relatively new to the gay scene and for me that pretty personal information.

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When straight friends try to set me up with other bottoms, I sometimes explain to them why that won’t work

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I don’t even talk about it with close friends. Am I just prude? Not sure how to respond if someone outright asks me? Thoughts?

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Proud power bottom. Hey

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To each their own. You can just jokingly say “haha what do you think?” Or something and play it off

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Has happened to me in my gay circle as my boyfriend and I are both “masc”

Usually just shrug or laugh it off ;)

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I’m a loud and proud bottom but I don’t expect others to be as vocal. Do what makes you feel comfortable

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OP get at me, I love tops

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I don’t really tell unless I’m interested in having sex with them, or that I was sharing a story about meeting someone for sex...

But also there is no shame in being a bottom or top or vers or flexi-bionic

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It’s pretty normal for people to talk about sex amongst friends, but definitely don’t feel obligated to if it makes you uncomfortable. I try to avoid it among acquaintances unless there’s a motivation for it. If you’ve lived somewhere long enough, word usually gets around 🤷🏽‍♂️

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It is not common in casual (face-to-face) conversation unless it’s a casual-sex conversation. If it’s casual social conversation my answer would be “nunya” (although I have never been asked). Because it’s truly nobody’s business, whether it’s a stranger at a bar or a close friend. That said, I know what my gay friends are so I don’t even need to ask 😀

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As a bi-curious guy, when I’m telling friends about my desires / preference I usually reference wanting to be in certain positions, etc.

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Oh honey, we definitely talk about these things at brunch.

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I talk about it very easily with friends (even casual ones) if the topic of dynamics comes up. I’m also 22 so this could be skewed generationally. But talking top/bottom/switches is very common in my life and with others in the community

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Depends. Men tend to be pretty forward

That said, OP, feel free to DM me if you want to talk about it.

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I guess the issue is it’s part of comparability for many men as they are either a top or bottom and need the opposite. Issue is you don’t know if it means the convo is about just sex or about sex in the context of long term comparability

Yes it’s normal and you totally should because it’s liberating! Sex (gay or not) shouldn’t be taboo or something to be ashamed of. You’ll likely learn something from discussing and end up happier with more satisfying experiences as a result. Rip the lid off!

Well I mean I’m open but I don’t discuss it in the work place. Also there aren’t many fine men in my office worth disclosing it to

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