I went on a few dates with a coworker and it just kind of fizzled during busy season. I saw her tagged in a pic today with another guy and it’s driving me nuts. Is that normal? How do I get past this?

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Sounds like an ego hit.

"I dont want to date her but I still want her to like me...and God forbid she starts to like someone else besides me"

If misery loves company, the good news is that many people feel this way.

Time to move on. Show us that advanced emotional IQ and be happy for her (since she is your friend).

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First step: Stop feeling entitled to her

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Okay this is a little over the top. Being bothered by someone you like dating other people is a 100% normal human emotion, it doesn’t mean he feels “entitled to her.” That said it is probably time to try to be happy for her and move on.

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Grow a pair and quit whining

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Haha yep Partner 1 nailed it. It sucks, but time will heal you!

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What’s there to heal? Stop thinking only about yourself and be happy for her! Men are sooo selfish!

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you always want what you can’t have! Remember there’s a reason it didn’t work out

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Tell her how you feel. Being in a similar spot as you, we can’t expect anything to happen unless you express yourself. Tell her you enjoy spending time with her etc

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It’s been about 2-3 months since we last went on a date. We decided we were going to be friends and if something happened, then good if not we’re still friends. I’ve gone on about 4-5 dates with other women so idk why this is even bothering me lol

Its normal you’ll get past it! It’s always hard to see someone you once liked or loved move on!
Focus on other things your friends/ family
You’ll get past it and be happy for her!

Don’t tell her how you feel if you have no intention of dating her ! it’s selfish when she’s having fun with someone else

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