I will be 34 this June, I want to have kids of my own. But part of me is so scared of thought of it, thought of how my life will be and if there will be any impact on career. Driving me crazy 😖😖

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In any job in this world , you will always be a number and we are ALL replaceable, irrespective of whether you have kids or not, Always prioritize your family and yourself. Also as a mom, let me just say there is a very distinct connection between age, fertility and child birth, while people will claim times have changed and you can have kids whenever ( and its true) , know that a lot of maternal health is still unexplained and there will be risks involved

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Just think about this... Imagine you are going to retire when you are 65. that means you have 31 more years to achieve what you want. Will it matter when you are 45-50 what you did or did not do for 2 years, when you were 34? No! In the long term, a minor lag in your career doesn't do much harm. It may slow you down a bit, but that is fine. The key is to remember not to check out completely. If you want to have a baby, this is the right time. Maybe for a year or two, you will find it very hard if you are juggling work and parenting. Then you will get used to it, and better at it. if you have a good support network, even better. Even if you don't have a lot of support, if you have your eyes set on your goals, plan and act systematically, you will get there!

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I say this not to make you more anxious but to take some uncertainty out of it (and that sometimes helps reduce anxiety). There is will definitely be an impact to your career/ life - you can’t add a tiny, totally-dependent-on-others human to it and expect life to go on as it always has. But maybe try talking to other moms/dads in your network who’ve gone through it to get a picture of how exactly things changed and how they’ve managed those changes? If those changes are worth the child to you, then you can at least go into it with more confidence/ preparedness and less anxiety?

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I’m 34 and seems like we are the same level. I’m absolutely going to have a baby. Started trying; at some point, we need to pay attention to our bodies and can figure the rest out. Life will change, but we are smart and can get through the challenges. Make the decision that’s right for you; make sure you don’t have regrets!

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Yeah agreed, thanks all. Baby will definitely change life and me as a person, I know I will want to be with baby longer - imp thing will to keep sight of my career goals and aspirations.

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I’m going to be 36 this year and thinking same, OP. These responses make it seem a little more manageable. Thanks all.

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