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I wish I put more effort into earlier relationships before the rise of online dating. Apps are more demoralizing than staff aug. 😔 Main complaints I hear from friends are men only wanting hookups and never putting effort into messages. I'm ready for a serious relationship and put effort into every single message. Even with tailored questions, I'll just get "invited to start the chat" on apps like Hinge. Female 🐠, aside from the physical attraction, what else do you look for in profiles?

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I looked for the person having a career, not just a job (unless they were in school). Also I’d look for common interests and try and judge their maturity level based on their pictures/profile. I wanted a serious relationship as well and so if I ever started talking to a guy and I could tell he wasn’t for that, I’d pass. It ended up working out as I’m now engaged to someone I met online :)

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Congrats! Definitely good insight. Though...I probably have more of a consulting "job" now vs. a well defined exit/career path. :)

Single 30M. Determined and focused, made it to Manager in 1 year. Financially stable. A little chubby but easy looking. Patient, loyal, can make fun of myself to ease the atmosphere. Have so much to give, looking for someone that I can settle down with, but would like to start as friends first. Any tips to build my Hinge profile to catch someone's attention? I have not got any likes after 3 weeks 🥲

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Your prompts need to actually be unique to you. They are supposed to weed people out and should not appeal to the masses. They also need to be actual conversation starters and give people a jumping off point to start a convo that is specific to your profile. Like RSM said, you see the same things over and over again and the answers are so generic. Generic answers tell me nothing about you. If your prompts don’t give me a starting point but I’m otherwise interested based on your physical looks, that’s when I simply invite the other person to start the chat.

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1. Coffee 2. The Office 3. Dogs 4. Travel I think that sums up all dating profiles in the multiverse

Are you a male or female? Looking for a male or female?

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Hah, good question. I guess my post was unintentionally heteronormative. M looking for F. (That sounds like a bad ad... 🤦‍♂️)

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Have you met my friend, Chief? 🥺

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You don’t sound convinced 🥺

Wish I could match with more guys who are also looking for a serious relationship!! Seems most want a hookup! Aside from physical, career matters (not all ppl put this but it helps)…having kids or not, smoker or not, where they live! Any interesting commentary in their prompts (for Hinge)

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Personality. I see the same prompts and responses with a picture holding a fish all the time. They say the person they’re looking for needs to like tacos, be fit, love the office, have a good sense of humor, like to travel/enjoy adventure, and like sports. 99% of guys I swipe left by the time I get to the third picture on Hinge.

Yup, I feel this! One of my prompts is literally roasting all these tropes. My humor is pretty dry/sarcastic, so it's a pretty good filter for humor.

I have some automatic “no’s,” which include: 1. Any photos with weird filters (I.e. Snapchat animal faces) 2. No info at all, only pics 3. Poly status (90% of people in my sex demo seem to identify this way) 4. Stating she’s “not into drama” (this means she is the instigator of all said drama) 5. Mostly/all group pics—which one are you? 6. Her name is Jenny or Stephanie 7. Bad spelling (I.e. alot—- sorry, I’m a writer) (Reference: I’m a queer, “older” single.)

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