I work in a team that’s a bit of a bro fest and they constantly talk over me - I often end the day feeling insignificant and unsupported. I have found myself feeling less confident and making mistakes as a result. Anyone got any tips on being more supportive and defending the right to be treated with respect, while not appearing overly emotional and needy?

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I’m so sorry. I know that feeling and I hate it. But you have to speak up and loudly. When they talk over you, say “let me finish this thought, Jake...” and keep talking until they realize someone needs to give way and it’s not going to be you again.

I’d honestly even bring it up directly if it’s bad. “Hey Rob, I know you don’t mean to, but it’s been a common reoccurrence that when I’m trying to get some words in during our meetings, you interrupt or talk over me. It leaves me doubting if I’m seen as a valuable member of the team even when I know I have thoughtful input. Can I ask that you be more aware of this habit in the future?”

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Thanks people - I have a catch-up with my boss on Wednesday who’s a bit of repeat offender himself. Will give the above advice a go and see how it turns out

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Please update us! Good luck ❤️

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Good advice. I work in a male dominated environment as well and found that saying: "Let me just finish this... " works well. Sometimes they cut you off without knowing it.

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They absolutely know it

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