I worry about crossing 30 and having reached no where in terms of career, relationship, family or personal goals. People who are settled in a stable family and good career progression by age of 30, what do they worry about?

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Health (myself, my parents, my dogs). Not so much worried as I'm aware it's inevitable. Someone will get cancer, have a disease and so on. Gotta live in the moment and make the most of today, each day. My wife. Generally still working towards the relationship. Just because you're married doesn't mean you stop dating and building the relationship. It's a lot of work, but should pay off. No kids yet, but family planning bc we want them, so working towards building a dream house, finding the right schools, and finding a location where I can truly be comfortable raising a family as an interracial couple. Last thing is the house. Owning a house (and making it yours) is never ending. You can pass on any DIY stuff, but to me it only feels like home once you've added your touches. Maintenance never stops either, even on new builds.

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This one hits close to home. I'm 32 and never worried about my family's health up until recently when I lost multiple people close to me in the span of 1 year. Now, I'm stressed out and can't sleep because that's all I think about constantly. Really made me reevaluate all of my priorities in life.

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I am living my career dreams, having fun personally, in the best shape of my life, looking forward to old age and mindfully planning for the worst. I’m a partner and set financially unless something really goes sideways. When I was 24 I was scared to leave a terrible relationship and thought I had to lock in life goals before 30, or else. When I was 28 I left the relationship to ensure my child didn’t see a dysfunctional marriage. At 30 I started to get over myself, and start living life. At 40, I started feeling sorry for the 30 year old I was, because I didn’t know then that my best years and best times were ahead of me. I was trapped in a scarcity mindset. I obsessed about things that just do not matter to mature adults. All of my friends haven’t kept their marriages intact. A couple have never been married and others are happy with their partners no matter when they met. Most have kids, a couple do not. Most everyone is successful on their terms. We’ve lost beloved parents, some have become closer to estranged parents. To a person, no one wants to go back in time. We all wish our younger selves would have just calmed down rather than stewing in anxiety about the future. But that’s hopefully what maturity and experience teach us. It’ll be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end. I can’t cite the author but the wisdom of this statement has stayed with me.

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Love hearing this. Getting to feel the same way. I was so overanxious in my 20-early 30s. I still fight it but coming to a place of peace.

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Missing out on the adventure of being young and free.

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Yeah young, free, poor was me in grad school. Job, spouse, financially comfortable is >>>

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Wait till you are almost 40 and start doubting your life choices 🤣

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Health. Already lost one friend to stage 4 cancer in his 30s. The aura of invincibility from your 20s fades quickly in your 30s.

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I'm sorry to hear that. I've lost multiple family members to cancer over the past year and it's a feeling I don't wish upon anyone.

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Not too long ago, I had the same mindset… I realized this sort of comparison isn’t healthy. People are at different trajectories in life - some folks get there quicker than others, but we all get there sooner or later. Don’t let a couple of missteps in the past dictate your future. Sorry, probably not the answer you were looking for, but just some food for though. Why stress about something you can’t control? Work at it - and hope for the best!

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Welp, I’m no help because I only focused on my career… single, no kids yet and miserable. at 32 … Don’t end up like me 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

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I just know this work isn’t for me. I’m not miserable because I’m single. I love my life outside of work. But 14-16 hr days of client bs is no fun

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Fam you are single, no children and have a good job. You are living the life. Just keep investing in yourself and good things will happen.

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Being a good parent

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I was already with the love of my life (living together, but not yet married) in a home I owned at 30. I had a great job, was progressing quickly up the ranks, and was on track to meet my big personal goals. I'm now 33 (will be 34 in a few months) - married, no kids because we don't want kids, 2 dogs, and have a new home we own together. My career is still going well, and I've hit my big personal goals. I worry about the same things now that I did at 30 - health, safety, and long term financial stability.

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I didn’t join consulting until after 30 and I have been hugely successful and promoted very quickly so take that as a sign you can do this

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Did you set goals in those areas? If you didn’t then you have nothing to worry about. If you have them then work on it. Focus on what you want not what others have.

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From a career perspective, I achieved my goal of being CIO but it affected my health. No kids because my wife and I worried that we would turn out like our abusive Mothers. Now I worry about growing old and having no one to take care of me.

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What’s your TC? That’s all that really matters these days.

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30 is a great age. What exactly is too late to do? Go out and meet people, create a list of 10 things you want to do goals/hobbies and review the list religiously. Invest in a career coach or a therapist. You have plenty of time to reinvent yourself if you don’t like your career. Read “Grinding it Out” by Ray Kroc. That dude revolutionised fast food and made something of himself in his 60s. 🤞

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Yea exactly, and when you are 60, you will be wishing you were 30

Honestly, when things you’re worried about now start happening for you, you’d wish it slowed down a bit. I turned 30 then Got married, joined consulting, had a baby, bought a house, got promoted….twice, all in the last 4 years. I’m happy with how my life is playing out now…Just make sure you’re prepared for the things you pray/wish for.

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Had my first kid at 29 and second at 31, so I suppose I count. I worry about my kids, my wife, my family. I am trying to earn more, so life is easier on the family, but I worry that the jump I need to make is going to back fire and give me money at the expense of time with them. My house is just one giant project. We spent far less than we could afford, so we can deal with the money aspect, but it's very time consuming.

Parents dying, raising kids well, having enough money to support family, being able to retire early, health. They get bigger I feel the older you get.

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