Idk why but I just feel like being alone during the holidays. Like I try my best to spend time with the family.. but crave for when I can just go back in my quiet space and watch tv / movie. I even tell myself I need to enjoy this time / moments, but I just always have the itch to go be alone.

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Your situation is different and it sounds like you are trying to apply some generalized "standards" to your situation making you think your feelings are invalid. They aren't. Most people don't live with their family, so family time at the holidays is special. If you live with your family it's more "ugh, you're STILL here? I want to talk to aunt edna." Or just wanting to be alone is fine too; I don't live with my family but this year's corona-solo-christmas is a dream come true for me.
TLDR: you're allowed to feel what you feel. Advice: absorb some family time then duck away for a while to recharge. If anyone is annoyed at your retreat, that's their problem and their insecurity to address.

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Are you talking about family that you live with or family that you have to travel to see?

If it’s the first, maybe get counseling
If it’s the latter just FaceTime them and be alone

Live with and extended family. Like tomorrow I just want to sit in the basement and watch sports / tv. Not eat and talk (because I see them daily)

Extended family I’m less inclined to go hiding because I haven’t seen them in a while and we catch up for a while.

Idk I just think my immediate family is boring and we talk / argue about the same stuff

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