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That’s likely correct, unless he otherwise told you he was busy or traveling. Men are simple creatures. If they like you, you won’t have to question it
And if he comes crawling back, you don’t have time for that s***
Chief
Yes. If he likes you, you will be 100% sure about it.
“If you’re confused he doesn’t like you”
To remove confusion for this— what do you do when you like someone? You move towards them you want to spend as much time with them as possible— romantic or otherwise. It’s a human trait. So if you’re not seeing classic signs of another human being desiring to forge a relationship with you, you can assume they are likely indifferent.
I always say: if he wanted to, he would.
If it’s important for you - you find a way.
If not - you find an excuse.
He obviously found an excuse…(no one can be that busy, seriously).
Rising Star
This! Soo many times people start making excuses about work or travel or prior commitments… I can work 80 hour week and still find time to text if I like someone. For others I could be sitting at home all week and they still may not hear from me
Move on. He may be pursuing someone else and have you in the back burner as a second choice
Yes, he doesn’t or he’s on the fence. People that like you make it clear and they are excited speak with you.
Pro
That’s correct. I dated a guy a long time ago who seemed to be really into me, but then I was unexpectedly in town for a week (I was traveling weekly at this point) and he didn’t make plans with me. A male friend of mine was like, “uh…what’s up with that? If he’s into you, he’s making plans, he’s closing the deal.” I ended up breaking up with him. He later came crawling back, promising to change, etc. At that point, I was like, “boy, bye” and had moved on.
Wish I had this sounding board in my 20’s 😂
Let it lie, he's distracted by someone or something. Don't double text, don't rant, just let it be. Time will tell. Go do other things or talk to other prospects, if he's not participating in convo there's nothing you can do or say.
Fuck him because being busy ain’t no excuse, friend zone him and move on.
Definitely. Move on.
He may or may not be interested. Just wanna say that I find some of the descriptions to dehumanize and simplify men really off putting 🤢
Rising Star
Uhm someone not responding for a week is not interested, simple as that. Or at least not interested enough which is not good enough. Unless there are some extenuating circumstances, no way someone is so busy to take 1 min to write a message to someone they are interested in romantically, male or female, doesn’t matter
More likely scenario is that they are not interested and are going the ghosting route or they want to have OP as a backup plan to they are delaying making further plans
You are correct and you are a treasure who deserves better.
Conversation Starter
Cut your losses, time is your biggest asset. Sooner the better.
Sometimes when you’re early in the talking phase you can’t expect quick replies- neither of you is each other’s top priority. Sooner the better but sometimes it doesn’t hurt to follow up even as an F
Chief
Here’s a flip side question: my daughter is not good at replying to messages and is that off-putting to guys? And if she is always is saying no (to doing things) with guys who like her, they will eventually stop asking? (That is what I tell her but maybe I am out of touch 😅)
If she’s not answering them and doesn’t have an interest in hanging out with them, then she probably doesn’t like them or isn’t interested in dating and or boys