If only guys tried to wine and dine me as much as recruiters.

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Harsh truth I'll throw out since it's anonymity: the top tier of guys( e.g. the minority of them you actually notice) usually don't want a career woman. They want a simple, sweet, supportive, and uncomplicated woman that they can trust to hold up every aspect of a household that they're ignoring in order to make sure their family is comfortable and has a bright future.

Not all inclusive of course, just describing the average for that type. I recall one incident in B-school where one lady broke down talking about how all the vets (she had a crush on a single one) had such great wives. All of them were like that.

I'm married now and speaking from experience (and the one I chose), the fastest way to make me crazy about a lady is if she's sweet natured and kind. Biggest reason I stuck with my wife long enough to break her out of her shell was that she was just so incredibly nice I just had to see how deep the rabbit hole went.


Why do I harp on that point? Guys DO NOT owe it to you to wine and dine you, same way no girl owes it to any guy for well....anything he might want. It's incumbent on you to make them want to.

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What are u / 10

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That's my problem, "simple, sweet, uncomplicated." Why can't a woman be kind, sweet natured, AND professional?

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Important to note: career women are capable of "retiring" into sweet supportive and nurturing wives/mothers. There is nothing wrong with establishing a career beforehand, it doesn't take away from our ability to instill the right values in our families or from being a caring "uncomplicated" partner. In fact, it may make us better at it having gone through a rigorous professional career.

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^beautifully written

Agree 1000% w/IBA1. As someone who recently got into a relationship, it was her kindness and good nature that attracted to me to her, rather than just good looks.... damn I'm getting old. haha

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Right. Somehow you magically come out unjaded. Almost got us!

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You just said you want to be wined and dined. A simple sweet girl doesn't have that notion, only to be treated well and with respect. Clearly this is over your head. It's ok, you'll find a loveless relationship in Ny!

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Uhm...so basically you all rather want a girl that brings no cash flows and doesn't need to be wined and dined than the other way around 🤔. And of course, there are no sweet career women. And wining and dining = loveless relationship, while totally not feeling the need to wine and dine a sweet girl must be true love.

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Yea nobody wants to wine and dine u too ugly. But seriously good post, which is why I make chicks pay 50/50 for awhile to see what they're really made of

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#o. @@

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OP you still haven't replied on your rating. Also please include geography.

Never said you can't. Main point is that most guys simply don't care about a woman's career either way as long as you're a productive, educated member of society.....and less classy guys won't even care about that. It's mostly attitude, personality, and looks usually in that order.

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