If someone you consider a friend is having a party and they haven’t invited you - and you see no reason why as others who are less of friends were invited - would you ask the person about this? How?

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at
Highlighted IconHIGHLIGHTED

I laugh and say "TFTI!"
Then I cry myself to sleep realizing that I'm not a priority for anyone 😝

likefunny

Do you have a good enough friend invited who can ask for you? I’ve had a close friend get left off an email invite from another close friend of ours. He asked me about the party, I asked the third friend. Turns out it was an oversight and the host apologized profusely

like
Recent IconRecent

Have a counter party and invite your mutual friends

likefunny

I’d ask direct; perhaps they forgot to invite you. “Hey I heard through the grapevine that you are having a party on —-; did my invite get lost..”

like

I would do the same...tho I would definitely leave out any mention of other people who you think are her “lesser” friends. That’s a value judgment about how *she* feels and it’s largely irrelevant.

like

Ask them to hang out that day

like

That seems petty

You can jokingly mention something like “wow, where’s my invite?” But I wouldn’t press anymore than that

like

“Hey! Ok if I join you all Friday night?”

like

Move on

like

I’m more interested in finding out why I’m not invited than actually going. If it was someone outside of my circle I wouldn’t care but in this case I really have no idea why I’m left out and it’s bothering me.

Just wondering how I can address

like

Maybe they thought you wouldn’t like it? Or that there’s someone coming they think you don’t get along with? My advice is to let it go - I don’t think you will like the reason no matter what it is, and I don’t think it benefits you to waste your energy on this.

like

Maybe it’s a surprise party for you

like

Just ask what they’re up to that night and see if they want to do something like get drinks or what not.

I truthfully could care less about these kinds of things.

My girlfriend on the other hand plays friend politics like this, typically because this girl slept with this girls ex, or some dumb non-adult reason, but the case may be similar

English is hard sometimes

like

Maybe they misspelled your email address in the invitation?

Yea not sure if communication channel was email

I had a small wedding and only invited 10 friends, the rest was family. My friends that we’re not invited started finding out after pics were posted and word got around. I told them it was nothing personal, we just wanted to keep it small and and only had family and lifetime friends. Had that conversation with a friend who had already sent me a save the date for his wedding and then he didn’t invite me... petty, glad I didn’t invite him.

I texted and asked if he’s having a party? He said I am! You should come.

Again, my bigger issue is why I was originally left off when others who I know are less friends (yes i know value judgment but true) were invited

I want to directly address. Should I say something like “not gonna lie i’m a bit sad I didn’t get the invite”?

My thought OP. ..the other so calledlesser friends might have greater connection than you are thinking ..may be they text more and are supposedly fun from hosts perspective..or have more 'catch up over coffee session' in last few weeks ..

My wife has sudden pop up of many new friends which she invited over other some.old friends ..to make sure it's a mixed group...not all people in group can do all things together at all times.

No. I don’t want anybody or anything that doesn’t want me.

The person could have forgotten you. While that may seem hurtful, it’s possible there was no malintent.
I recently found out a friend of mine was coming in from another state for a mutual male friend’s baby shower (for his wife, who we know). She told me to come and I said I wasn’t invited. A few days before the shower, I received the invite and asked if she had said anything to him. She said no.
They remembered me, just a little late...
I wouldn’t write them off just for this.
You decide if it’s worth continuing to be friends, inviting them places, etc.
good luck- thought my story could help?

I texted him and he apologized. Said he and his roommate wanted to keep numbers small but that that’s not an excuse he should have invited me.

I want to ask all of you. Do you think my reaction to this incident is not normal? Is this an overreaction I should fix or is it normal to feel this way in this case?

You’re right. Thinking about this, the only benefit I would get is any utility of being at the party and hanging out with my friends and maybe meeting new people there. My “friendship” with the host is not strengthened at all.

Related Posts

Asking for my sister:

Capital One 🐠, is negative feedback from a power day received quicker than positive feedback? That is, prior to her power day, my sister was told by the recruiter that she'd hear back in 2-3 days, and it's been 2 days so far with no news. Is that a good sign or undetermined?

like

Anyone have experience in drafting pitch decks for revolving lines of credit? Would love to hear or see the basic format/structure!

like

Hi guys, i got good comments in my review and feedback was also the same during regular connects in last cycle. But even after being a lateral hire and already completing 2 cycles at ZS, my ratings are barely halfway, whenever i ask about feedback from seniors i always get answers like you are already doing good. Feeling pretty bad about the ratings and seeing people of my tenure getting far better hikes. How do i take this up with my AC without sounding rude?

like

What makes a great social media manager? Any pitfalls?

like

How long did it take you to land your dream job?

like

Recommendations for small/boutique branding & design agencies to work on a brand redesign with? Preferably in NYC but open.

like

I quit smoking 5 years ago but I feel like I’m gonna need a pack...

Post Photo
likefunny

Does Nagarro have a Digital ID card for employees ?

like

Share your introduction and about your company in 2-3 sentences.

Any plays today? PayPal, Microsoft, EBay, Tesla

Anyone dealt with age discrimination at work or thought they were fired because of it? I have a strong hunch I was let go because I'm older than most of the team and they're trying to get a "fresh perspective." To me it just sounds like they're firing anyone over 50.

like

Yoga with Adriene on YouTube has been a godsend for those days where I don't have time/energy to get a run in. Anyone else a fan of hers?

like

As a data scientist with 1 year of experience and appraisal being around the corner. What is the hike I should be expecting and negotiating for?

likehelpful

Can anyone give insight on TC packages for both L5 & L6 non-tech Program Management roles at Amazon? Sales governance and GTMS. 7 YOE including Fortune 100 and High-growth start up. No MBA.

like

I’ve had this idea for a while: having a bunch of shared rentals for multiple skiing locations, and having shared buy-ins for people in this group with flex. I wanted to test waters to see interest!

like

Billin’ on a Friday night

Post Photo
likefunny

ZS hike letters are out. What a shitshow. Worst performance in years considering the market.

like

Hi everyone. I was recently laid off. Maybe now is my opportunity to really work on different ideas. I want to start a menstual pad brand. When buying a pad, what makes you choose one brand over another? Any input will be greatly appreciated.

like

Hi
Is there anyone from
Virtusa ?
I need a job referral.
I have a job ID.
Thanks in advance.

like

So what careers can one branch out into from a SAM?

Additional Posts in Consulting

Every time i get delayed and get home 2-3 am on a Friday, I ask myself why i still have this job

like

I've been in the world of consulting for several years; amazed at how much more analysts and others feel the need to be constantly utilized. Seeing posts about how holidays impact the metric (cont'd)

like

Get me off anti-money laundering, please. Don't extend me, please. Thank you.

like

Currently a Manager with 6YOE at EY Business Design (consulting), been offered a Senior Consultant role at Bain. Is this a downgrade in terms of tasks I will be doing at the new role? Pay is about the same (185K USD)

like

Was feeling interior seeing all the partners' LinkedIn profile pictures showing a bunch of people my age until I realized they just haven't updated it since they started

likefunny

Anyone here have experience, or have any knowledge about, working at an internal strategy team at a Big Law firm? Interested in making a switch into strategy, but unsure if working at law firm is the correct move. Thanks!

like

Is there only one group in FB or multiple mini-forums?

like

Asking for my sister:

Capital One 🐠, is negative feedback from a power day received quicker than positive feedback? That is, prior to her power day, my sister was told by the recruiter that she'd hear back in 2-3 days, and it's been 2 days so far with no news. Is that a good sign or undetermined?

like

How do I get a free NYT subscription?

I recently started at Big 4 and I am aware that my coach is not that great. What should I do? I really want to climb as high as I can at Big 4 but understand that having a good coach is essential

likefunny

Best consulting firms for strategy in the US besides the big 4 and MBB?

like

has anyone participated in the MLT program? looking into it and would like to learn about the overall experience!

like

Do you support video during remote calls? I think sometimes people don’t realize that others aren’t really dressed appropriately and can get on video with no notice

like

Forgot to turn on cabin pressure....

Post Photo
likefunny

Are the six sigma certs actually worth it to do?

like

How is everyone planning for potential layoffs?

like

My greatest asset is my temperament 😂

like

So which one of our companies really created Fishbowl and will use it to ruin us one day?

like

Do you think Apple made the best strategic decision by launching iPhone 14?

like

What are your top book recommendations? I’m genre neutral.

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Send download link to your phone

OR

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

Messaging rates may apply

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal