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Do you have a good enough friend invited who can ask for you? I’ve had a close friend get left off an email invite from another close friend of ours. He asked me about the party, I asked the third friend. Turns out it was an oversight and the host apologized profusely
Have a counter party and invite your mutual friends
I’d ask direct; perhaps they forgot to invite you. “Hey I heard through the grapevine that you are having a party on —-; did my invite get lost..”
I would do the same...tho I would definitely leave out any mention of other people who you think are her “lesser” friends. That’s a value judgment about how *she* feels and it’s largely irrelevant.
Ask them to hang out that day
That seems petty
You can jokingly mention something like “wow, where’s my invite?” But I wouldn’t press anymore than that
“Hey! Ok if I join you all Friday night?”
Move on
I’m more interested in finding out why I’m not invited than actually going. If it was someone outside of my circle I wouldn’t care but in this case I really have no idea why I’m left out and it’s bothering me.
Just wondering how I can address
Maybe they thought you wouldn’t like it? Or that there’s someone coming they think you don’t get along with? My advice is to let it go - I don’t think you will like the reason no matter what it is, and I don’t think it benefits you to waste your energy on this.
Maybe it’s a surprise party for you
Just ask what they’re up to that night and see if they want to do something like get drinks or what not.
I truthfully could care less about these kinds of things.
My girlfriend on the other hand plays friend politics like this, typically because this girl slept with this girls ex, or some dumb non-adult reason, but the case may be similar
English is hard sometimes
Maybe they misspelled your email address in the invitation?
Yea not sure if communication channel was email
I had a small wedding and only invited 10 friends, the rest was family. My friends that we’re not invited started finding out after pics were posted and word got around. I told them it was nothing personal, we just wanted to keep it small and and only had family and lifetime friends. Had that conversation with a friend who had already sent me a save the date for his wedding and then he didn’t invite me... petty, glad I didn’t invite him.
I texted and asked if he’s having a party? He said I am! You should come.
Again, my bigger issue is why I was originally left off when others who I know are less friends (yes i know value judgment but true) were invited
I want to directly address. Should I say something like “not gonna lie i’m a bit sad I didn’t get the invite”?
My thought OP. ..the other so calledlesser friends might have greater connection than you are thinking ..may be they text more and are supposedly fun from hosts perspective..or have more 'catch up over coffee session' in last few weeks ..
My wife has sudden pop up of many new friends which she invited over other some.old friends ..to make sure it's a mixed group...not all people in group can do all things together at all times.
No. I don’t want anybody or anything that doesn’t want me.
The person could have forgotten you. While that may seem hurtful, it’s possible there was no malintent.
I recently found out a friend of mine was coming in from another state for a mutual male friend’s baby shower (for his wife, who we know). She told me to come and I said I wasn’t invited. A few days before the shower, I received the invite and asked if she had said anything to him. She said no.
They remembered me, just a little late...
I wouldn’t write them off just for this.
You decide if it’s worth continuing to be friends, inviting them places, etc.
good luck- thought my story could help?
I texted him and he apologized. Said he and his roommate wanted to keep numbers small but that that’s not an excuse he should have invited me.
I want to ask all of you. Do you think my reaction to this incident is not normal? Is this an overreaction I should fix or is it normal to feel this way in this case?
You’re right. Thinking about this, the only benefit I would get is any utility of being at the party and hanging out with my friends and maybe meeting new people there. My “friendship” with the host is not strengthened at all.