If there's FOMO, what do you call the regret you have after making a fear based /fear of missing out based decision? FOMOR? Whatever it is, I have it.

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For what it's worth: I took the other path, worked on meaningful research and non profit for a good number of years. It's tough. It pays horrible. Some terrible, horrible people also work there. And yes, it IS rewarding, and it's fantastic to wake up in the morning and find meaning. But then bills accumulate, and your child is growing and you wish you could provide more, and employment is so uncertain, and pay is so bad, and everyone seems to expect that doing good should be enough to get you by. Finding job is a nightmare, and finding a decent paying job is close to impossible.

One day, after getting fired from the most unhealthy work environment I have experienced, I just sat and made a decision to drastically change tracks. I moved to software development, got a job that at every level paid more than what I earned at managerial level in nonprofit. In less than 4 years I've almost doubled that salary. And literally one of the things I realized was: I don't need to work in suffering for miserable wages to 'save the world'. I can work for a decent salary, in a job that I don't think hurts people, and then in my spare time, do what I can to make the world better. I found a couple of rewarding volunteering gigs I can do in my spare time, and made sure my current job allowed me to do them (some require working hours commitments). Because I have a decent income my stress levels have reduced considerably, and my mind is better able to actually be present when I do community work.

I guess what I'm trying to say, my light bulb moment was, I don't need to dedicate my professional life to nonprofit work in order to make a difference in my community. I can actually do both things. So I have some meaningful, impactful work I do in my free time. And I also have a good decent paying job.

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Tell us more? What was the decision?

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Great comment Chief!!!

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Been there. Its rough.

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This is just called regret

Regret.

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