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Have the second kid - for life, for fun for family for your first kid - hire who you need to for help. Pay for a nanny/day care, hire cleaning person order in- Re your husband - depends on the person and your relationship. Life passes you by very quickly. Of course if you really dont want a second kid and feel complete then be happy with that decision but don’t say no just because of the overwork. Other than paying for college two is not double the work of one. I have 3 kids now all in college or grad school and never regretted the decision - if anything I regret not having the 4th.

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