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If you are at business dinner would you hand the wine list to the only female, and say "You probably want this instead of that beer menu,"?

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Female here. I would have asked for it before someone could offer bc dinners with all men need a lot of wine bc they are boring af

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Why didn't you just order the wine on her behalf? "She'll have the cab"

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No. She can drink whatever the heck she wants.

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^^^not long for this world

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I am not the female, was an observer. And saw the female twitch. She recovered well. I think I am the only one that noticed. The person asking has consistently said things that made me cringe for others.

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I'm from Australia. I'd honestly never think to not just hand over the full set of drinks menus. #alcoholicnation

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OP you had a perfect opportunity to say something. Doesn't need to be a huge call out, maybe just jokingly deride him for saying something so silly.
You have a lot more social power than the woman in that situation (as a bystander).

And since this guy says​ other cringe-worthy things, maybe bring it up to him one on one.

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D6 I see you trollin'
I'm ratin'...🎶
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@m, that's sexist. Not every female prefers wine over beer

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D1 nice to see that you're a complex individual with evolved preferences

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Or maybe OP is a female and is annoyed at men doing this...

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Male here, Who drinks beer at a business dinner? Drink your Stella on your own dime.. when it's the company's, ain't sipping nothing cheaper than a $300+ bottle of wine.

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If they choose the beer menu, you have marriage material there. 😉

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It's unconscious prejudice, nobody has any bad intentions when they do that...just based on past observation and they're trying to accomodate

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I'm 23 F and don't drink so I don't care about either menu !

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Similar things have happened to me. I just slide it back and jokingly mention it's a draft kind of night or I'm ready for the hard stuff. People make assumptions all the time and typically it just makes them look like assholes. Doesn't affect me but I certainly wouldn't suck it up and stay quiet.

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Yea id be a little bothered, if they dont know the person loves only wine, & esp if youve heard him say other things. Im glad youre noticing and cringing with those people! Agree w A1 that you could say something while keeping it light.

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D1 has low standards

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Female here. Is it a situation where they have seen you drink wine before? My last team would have wine waiting for me when I got to the restaurant... they knew me so well 😀🍷

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And no he never ate with the female before.

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