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A general post that was not directed at anyone and openly shared on their social media? I would not consider that mom-shaming. Sounds like general sharing of knowledge.
A post your searched out and it wasn’t directed at you? No. Mom shaming is real. But so is this hyper sensitive cancel culture.
Thank you. That person is me. I shared a post on social media regarding a study on crib bumpers and how it wasn’t considered safe. So it was merely an educational post.
Someone had commented and said whenever I post stuff like this, I am mom-shaming.
The reason I got into safe sleep practices, was because of a post that someone else shared. I had never heard of it until I was 8 months pregnant!
VPHR 1- I understand your reasoning and I appreciate your input, it’s just weird to me that everything nowadays that contradicts what a mother is doing with their child is “mom-shaming” this is why no one can be happy. I would never comment on a post that has a picture of a baby sleeping with crib bumpers and say “this is bad for your baby”. The post I shared was from a page I follow that posted the study on how crib bumpers were directly linked to baby deaths. Isnt it sad that those babies could be alive today?! 😢
The fact is, is that it happens and I think first time moms should hear about and research all the things safe sleep related and make an informed decision. I sleep more peacefully at night, knowing I follow the safe sleep recommendations. But I know some moms sleep more peacefully at night with their baby in the bed with them.
Crib bumpers are cute, and just for show. But what other purpose do they serve?
No
I definitely would not consider that mom shaming, as long as it wasn’t obviously directed at any one specific person. I would consider that being a helpful mom trying to arm other moms with good information!
Why would that be shaming? Sounds like helpful information.
Sometimes it helps to say "here is information i wasn't aware of when I was making this decision/going through the thing/whatever and I want to be sure you're aware of it" or something along those lines (and make sure your link or infographic is from a reliable source) when you post. I think most people will see it as being helpful/informative, even though some people won't. And then don't argue further within that thread or post.
I don’t think “mom shaming” is the right word for an article about crib bumpers. I feel like that info probably isn’t as well-known as other health/safety related baby things that are more controversial. But there’s a line somewhere, right? Take a different safe sleeping topic, for example. Like somebody posts an article about co-sleeping not being safe, and that inevitably will offend a mom that co-sleeps safely. Same with breastfeeding vs formula. Someone could share an article from a reputable source that breast milk is healthiest could say that is just information sharing, but many moms who don’t or can’t breastfeed will think (probably correctly!) that it’s mom shaming. TM1 above gave good advice on how to preface information sharing on topics where intelligent informed parents are on both sides of the issue.
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Depends. Is this person consistently making you feel bad?
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Was it a passive-aggressive post that they think you did something wrong in their eyes?
Nope.
No, unless there were reasons to believe it’s passive-aggressively directed at me.
Definitely not if shared generally
Ha! I consider it mom-shaming only if it's posted in response to something a mom said that was the opposite and worked for their kid. It was done to me on this platform when I shared that my kids slept better on their bellies. It happens when people have too much time on their hands. Why negate another person's truth?
No because keeping babies safe has nothing to do with the egos of the parents.
I think we have started interpreting guidelines too literally and without context. Take co-sleeping for example. In most of these parenting articles, co-sleeping is an absolute no. If you do it you’re putting your child’s life at risk. The truth is when done right (with known precautions) co -sleeping has overall benefits for both mom’s mental health, sleep cycles and baby. And it’s less dangerous than sitting up and holding a baby to sleep all night when they won’t stay in their crib.
What I’m trying to say is that gauge the impact of what you decide to share- it isn’t really that black and white.