If you took extra time off when you had a baby, how long did you take off total? How was the transition back to work? I’m at the end of mat leave, but my son is having health challenges (cont)

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Talk to HR. So many options, part time, PTO, sabbatical etc

This happens when you need to take care of family. They should work with you

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I went back to work when my son was 7 mo. Combination of maternity leave and PTO. I missed work, adult conversations, other challenges than those a baby brings etc but would have extended my leave (taken unpaid leave) had it been for health reasons (my own or my son’s).
Talk to HR and your bosses - keep in mind that while they are HR and bosses, they may also be parents themselves and will understand your situation on a personal level which is comforting.

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I don’t have experience but be there for your son as long as possible. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this stressful experience

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I took 4 months and then took advantage of my firms Flexibility for new moms. I worked from home for the next four weeks and then 1/2 travel the next two weeks before going back full time. It gave me a chance to trust my caregiver while still being around. And my baby nurse totally understood and wad super supportive.

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This sounds like an obvious case where you would be allowed to take any unpaid leave option available to you. Even if your firm doesn’t have a formal policy to allow this, you should still ask and see if it’s possible - I bet they would let you. I completely understand your feeling like this isn’t something you can comfortably outsource to a normal caregiver. Not only is the method of feeding different, but I imagine the standard of cleanliness and care and comfort of baby have to be much higher as well. You do exactly what you need to do to get your baby and yourself through this period, whatever makes it easier on you all is okay, even if you feel like a choice is being made more for your benefit than your baby’s. Self-care is really important in these situations - your strength gives your baby strength!

Best wishes to you. You can do it!

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I took 5 mos off. The last portion of the "mat leave" was unpaid LOA, so I could have stayed home even longer if I wanted to. Does your firm have something like that?

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Good luck OP! Stay strong mama 🌺

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Take the time you need! Your bosses will understand, i promise Think about which option you think you’d regret looking back in a few years.

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We can do up to 6 months unpaid on top of our paid leave if we get partner approval. I didn't do it personally but know 2 people that have. One took the full 6 months, the other took 3. I spoke to the one who took 3 about it and she said it was immediately approved and the partner was supportive of her taking some extra time. Her baby was premature so needed some extra care.

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I took 11 mos. Had about 5 mos unpaid as my father was sick at the time. So it was unpaid loa for different personal reasons. I would say put baby first, be bold, that’s prolly where your heart is anyways (staying home that is). There will always be time for career.

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Even if it’s not common, don’t fear. And when you look at it 2 years later, it will seem like a blip in your career. And nobody will remember exactly how many months extra you took. It will all just be “mat leave” to them.

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He has really bad GERD (reflux), and allergies and has ended up on a feeding tube. Drs say he will outgrow this and to be patient and give it time (the two things I lack the most). Best guess is when he is 7-8months old he will be off the feeding tube. I don’t think I can outsource this to anyone else bc we are coming from a critical place where we landed in the hospital for a week. Even if I was working my head would be elsewhere and prob won’t do a good job. I’m feeling at a loss and I can’t logically explain why. I love my job and miss my team and having adult convos, and it would also help to have other things to focus on, but realistically I don’t think I can do it, my sons health situation is a full time job right now and I don’t trust anyone else to do the things I’m doing for him right now to minimize his pain and work with him on his feeding aversion. I need to talk to HR and my many bosses. I don’t have a clear timetable but essentially don’t think I can go back as long as he is on a feeding tube.

Thanks everyone. I am def going to take extra time off and unpaid leave for a couple of months. I’m reaching out to HR and my bosses this week. It is where my heart and head are at, even as it feels like a hard decision. I keep telling myself in the grand scheme of things this is what matters most and really isn’t that much longer. I think they will be supportive too- I just find it hard to open up abt this without breaking down. Seems like taking extra time is fairly common too so I shouldn’t worry as much. Thank u guys for the support ❤️

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