If you wanted kids, at what age and career level would you want to have them? If you have kids, when did you have them and was it too early / late / just right?

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27 years old and I just decided to give up on feeling “established enough” in my career first because I don’t think I ever will (this is just how I am). So we just started trying last month. I don’t know if there’s a such thing as an “ideal time” so long as you have some financial cushion, good health, and a good partner. Others might feel differently of course - and I’m definitely curious to hear how moms feel about it.

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I am jealous of some people I know that had kids right out of college and then went back to their careers full force. I don’t know how I would have handled that though

I want one, specifically with my current partner who is an equal contributor to household work, when I’m 37-38 (froze my eggs for this reason). Career level matters less to me than financial situation. I’d like to be at a financial point by then that I can afford the best childcare and schools without feeling like we’re scraping by and so that I can pay to outsource most life admin things like errands, cooking, etc. So that my time can be spent on quality time with my child and husband, work progression, and occasional me time.

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It’s def different if you want multiple! Biologically, obviously, but also my friends with two kids say having two takes a lot more energy, for more years. BTW I have some friends who are planning to freeze their eggs now for potential use for their second or third pregnancies, as they will realistically be late 30s by then. There are lots of paths to the life you want ❤️

Before I knew anything about anything, I thought I wanted to be an SM making $200K TC in order to have kids.

Now, I will say that if there were no biological limitations, I would have waited another 15 years, regardless of career level.

Reality: I was a manager being promoted to SM making $180K. I felt a little disappointed I didn’t hit $200K before getting pregnant.

I would have said it was too early for me (early 30’s), but fast forward to a year postpartum, and becoming a mom spurred a total reevaluation of my goals/life…I started exploring other avenues and working hard to figure out what I really want to do and where I want to be. I’m now jumping to a different role in industry and over tripling my TC.

I’m a big believer in “it all works out the way it should…”

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24 / 27 for my husband and I. We both felt 27 was the perfect age so only one of us could win lol

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I’m 34, aiming to get going next year

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Had my first at 28. If I could go back and have them sooner I would- they are the best and I wish I was spending time with them sooner rather than doing the career grind

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This is so interesting!!

28 and 29. There’s no perfect time but in the middle of MBA recruiting was probably not the best timing 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I no longer think it’s something you can plan for. I tried at 33 and 34. After several miscarriages and complications I need a break and even though I’m in the advanced maternal age category I just can’t handle trying again this year. Going to try again at 36. I think any time after 30 would have been great and would have preferred early 30s. Any time after Manager or escaping to industry would have worked just fine for me.

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29, and within the next year as manager. Ideally i want 3 in total but I am happy with whatever God blesses me with

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33/34 and hopefully partner by then. I’m 30 now and want a few more years to myself so i can check things off my personal to-do list (e.g., travel, mountaineering expeditions) before diving into parenthood. My bf and i are on the same page and working towards the same. Reaching partner would be great but not a requirement

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I worked it backwards. Knew I wanted my kids out of the house before I was 50 (I used to think at that age was ancient), subtracted 18 years and 32 was when I wanted to be done with child birth. Turned 31 the month after my second was born.

Kind of a weird way to do it I know, but it worked for me. Also remember that getting pregnant can take a while or no time at all; you can only plan so much!

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30, 32, 34. I was a Project Leader, Principal, Partner. Seemed just right to me… I wasn’t yet so old as to be worried about my fertility but I’d built up credibility with my colleagues

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Hmm when my partner and I can be flexible with work and also have ££, so I guess age 33ish? Idk

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Had my first one at 34. He is turning 3 in Feb. Honestly, i wish I had tried sooner. I am at a leadership position right now and it kind of difficult to manage the crazy work hours along with my family responsibilities. I feel guilty that i am perpetually tired and do not play as much as i would love to play with him.

In my case, I had been passed over for a key promotion when my baby was born. I personally feel that having a baby earlier doesn’t interfere with promotions etc. and responsibility/stress is not as huge as it sometimes get as we progress through the career ladder. But each case is different, and sometimes things can be managed well irrespective of seniority.

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