If your SO claims they love you but isn't ready to take the "next step" yet (whether it's moving in, getting married, etc.), what does it mean?

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^"self awareness level=sea cucumber " 😂🤣 not so fast Peter Pan. Women carry offspring. women between the ages of the ages of 18-mid 30s are in their peak reproductive years. The longer time a women spends dating Peter Pans during this period, the less time she has available to seek men who are emotionally evolved. If she waits too long and attempts to have children after mid 30s, it seriously endangers her and the future babies health. It is also very expensive. So I ask, Is it ethical to endanger a woman's health because Peter Pan still wants to have fun? No and it is in fact selfish of a bf to keep her waiting during those pivotal years until he decides to grow up.

The benefits men receive by participating in a healthy relationship are numerous. Studies show men live longer and healthier. It can offer them a sense of purpose and a legacy. It builds emotional intelligence and connection. It promotes a faster career progression and greater earned income , as such men are viewed as responsible, mature, and stable.

Something to think about...

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^dearest little peter pan, those same studies also indicate that at least 50% of marriages remain in tact. In fact that's a more favorable statistic of success than becoming an entrepreneur and successfully starting a business ( 80% fail first round ). Yet kiddos your age are jumping on the bandwagon to run startups. 😂

Anyway, your post lend credence to the original premise which is choosing the right Man , not Peter Pans, is an important determinant of relationship success . These men are unafraid of women and view them as partners, not agents of destructive subjugation.

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He's Peter Pan. Set him free. If he grows up, he'll return a man

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Ok honestly that's way too long. He should know what he wants. U need to have a serious talk.

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^this is weirdly gender normative lol. It's not about men or women. Some people just aren't ready. That's ok. You just have to move on and find someone that wants what you want.

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^relationship entitlement?! 😂😂🤣 Ladies and Gentlemen, Behold, Peter Pan has twinkled his way to this post.

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I know people tend to think differently and that it's controversial to say this..... but don't try to get a boy to grow up. If he seems scared of growing up then there are plenty of actual men out there who would love to amount to all of your wants and needs.

Personally it's a damn shame when I see little boys keeping beautiful impatient girls locked down while they keep playing around with their friends and toys.

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Been with my gf for 8 years. Judge me

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There isn't one size fits all. Age, work, maturity, length of relationship, etc all matter. You need to have an honest discussion with this person about how you're feeling. Why doesn't this person want to "move forward"? Are they not ready? Scared? Not invested? You should find out why your partner feels this way, and try to overcome it. If you can't, then it's time to move on.

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Someone I know proposed his GF after 10 years. Relax!

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I would be hella clear. And honestly be real confident. I would say something like this,

We've been together for 3 years and I'm ready for the next milestone in our relationship. Have u thought about any next steps for us? I know I want to get married some day and it doesn't have to be with you. It can be with this guy or that guy. I don't think there is only one right person for me out there. But whoever I'm choosing to be with, I do it with the hope that it could lead to marriage. If this is not something that U want for yourself or with me, pls say so now. No hard feelings. Just trying to understand where we both stand.


^ I totally did that with my BF of 1 year and fortunately, it's taken us to the next milestone (not necessarily marriage cus I'm not ready for that either). Best wishes!!! Be strong!!

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Senior Trader1- gs1 is definitely under 30 😂. A little bit of boyish anger issues and an irrational fear of the "vagina dentata" chomp chomp chomp 😂🤣

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"My bf selfishly refuses to take the Official Next Steps, which are exclusively in my best interest. Why is he so immature?"

Self awareness level: sea cucumber

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Some people just get self absorbed in their current lifestyle and don't want change. So they are telling you the truth most likely, but will probably not ever be 'ready' for the next be steps in life. It's your call if you are fine with not moving forward. Give it a defined amount of time then consider moving on possibly after that.

I personally am married with kids and a house and it's not even close to scary. Still have an awesome social life but have much more depth in this lifestyle than when my life was only bars, apartments and work.

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@JPM1 Thanks, I really appreciate your POV. I just feel really sad... if everything is so good (and we've established that it is), then why is the next step so difficult?

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If "everything is so good" why do you need to go to the next step? Maybe everything is not so good. Think about what u want.

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Make him feel the pain..take away the benefits he is getting until he commits

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Did you all just assume his gender??!

For all the current yammering about men being entitled babies, there sure is a lot of relationship entitlement in this thread.

Maybe the poor guy just doesn't want to be financially beholden to a woman? A lot of men I know, incl me, will never, ever allow that to happen.

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WOOT ^

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^ well said

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