I’ll preface this by recognizing that it’s a very privileged concern to have, but is it wrong to hide my family’s wealth from my friends? Grew up middle class but through a recent job at a startup my dad is now a multimillionaire. My lifestyle hasnt changed at all — I don’t get any money/big gifts from my family, I pay all my own bills, and my fam is still extremely frugal. But obviously, I have HUGE privilege — I feel deceitful going along w friends’ convos about aspiring to be wealthy one day

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I’m a bit confused - it sounds like your dad is now wealthy and not you? And you don’t get any significant gifts from him? In that case it seems this change isn’t significant for you personally either way and you would have the same aspirations as before. Unless you’re now planning on a large inheritance?

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Let’s be clear... you’re not wealthy, your dad is. Also, no offense but there are tons of older people with multimillion dollars in their retirement and bank accounts that certainly wouldn’t be considered “wealthy”. Like what gives you reason to believe that your friends parents don’t have multimillion dollar investment accounts. My friends parents wealth certainly isn’t my concern and while we have probably talked about it its never from a perspective of being theirs. Idk, I hope this doesn’t come across as mean I just don’t think it should change or impact your mentality or your friendships.

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money is a pretty private topic for most people. I would definitely try to just not stress or feel anxious about it (even though that’s harder to stay than do) and if it ever comes up somehow I would follow what M1 said below and focus on the fact that your dad has had some great career success with an awesome company more than just the money aspect.

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If it were me and not sharing felt uncomfortable, I would share the news as good news with my friends and say “I’m so proud of my dad for his hard work at this start up org and really grateful it paid off for him. I look up to him and hope I can be in his position one day”

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Oh i think there is a part of you that wants to brag to your friends. And you are cloaking that in “fear of being deceitful”. Get over it. It’s not your money or your success

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Regardless of what anyone says, once people find out your family has money, they might be jealous and they might resent you depending on their personal financial position. Not saying anything to them is not deceitful at all, it’s just maintaining your privacy. And maybe it’s not your money/success, but one day it will be and you will reap the benefits.

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I’m trying to think of the last time I talked to any of my friend about their parent’s wealth or lack of it.

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But frankly, I wouldn’t mind hearing the story of your father’s success. Not that I am aspiring to be a multimillionaire but I always like a good story of success.

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Agree with M1, be proud of your dad and be aware that some friends may be a little sensitive if you bring up this topic on purpose

Just listen to your friends. Them aspiring to be wealthy has nothing to do with your dad's accomplishments. If I were in your shoes, the best thing I can do is to help my friend connect with my dad so they can ask for advice if they really wanted to be in a position that he's in.

I don't understand why your dad's wealth is any of their business? It isn't your wealth and you don't get any of the money so why is that anything they need to be aware of?

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