I’m 24, in New York and just broke up with my last boyfriend of 3 years. Tell me the truth - is it actually impossible to date here??

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It’s not impossible but it’s HARD.

Just speaking from my experience, it’s emotionally draining.

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While it may seem hard - remember you are 24 and you have SO MUCH to look forward to! Focus on yourself, the good stuff is ahead. I promise! :)

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At 24 I was really focused on dating. Now I’m 30 and realize I had SO much time then, and still SO much time now to date. Don’t stress!

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I had a great time dating in New York. Did online dating off and on (mostly off) for a few years and went on some terrible dates, a lot of mediocre dates, a few great dates, and eventually found the one! But I really enjoy meeting new people so that’s probably why I thought it was fun. A good bit of the dating experience has to do with your attitude about it.

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^ such a helpful and positive way to look at online dating from my (single persons) perspective. I am always talking to strangers anyways and often feel isolated when I don’t go into the office as much. A simple coffee or drink date is a nice way to just connect with fellow humans at the least even if it sucks. Pick different coffee shops or bars so you can kill 2 birds with one stone and try out a new spot. You may also learn more about yourself. I don’t have much exp with online dating but I think looking at it as fun and not a chore is critical

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Just be single and focus your life with OTHER things. Dating in NY is rough and I think you can focus on other things like building tour career, traveling, etc

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at 24, you be alright... at 35, you in danger..

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sad but true 😞

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Not impossible but hard.. everyone is playing the field and will be regretting it in 10 years

Not impossible! Just a numbers game. Dating apps make it super easy to get a quantity (but not always quality) of dates.

The quantity can still be fun though - you collect exciting nights or bad date stories to entertain your friends with

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