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I'm 25 and this morning I had a panic attack because how old and unaccomplished I feel Always thought I'd doing something and accomplishing some stuff by this age... Yet I'm working 24/7 for a job I

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First off - you haven't wasted your youth. You are extremely young. The game hasn't even started yet. You should start following Gary Vaynerchuk on social media. Something we all have to realize is that not everyone will be Steve Jobs. Nor should everyone want to be Steve Jobs. We can absolutely find beauty and meaning in our ordinary, monotonous lives. Have you ever seen The Office, Parks and Rec, or Superstore? Something I really like about these shows is that they all share that message. You can find beauty and meaning in the ordinary. It will look different for everyone. For me, it's my kids. Is having kids an extraordinary accomplishment? No. Most anyone can do it. It's very ordinary. But at the same time it is uniquely extraordinary to me. For some people it will making great friends, at work or outside work. It will be finding a significant other. It will be losing a signficant other, and finding another. For some people, some of the most meaningful moments will be sitting around the kitchen table at 11 pm just talking with family or friends. All of these things are ordinary. But they can all be uniquely extraordinary. And I love that. I love that the most meaningful parts of life are, for the most part, available to everyone. Look for meaning in your life as it stands. I can guarantee it is uniquely meaningful and extraordinary.

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You should write a book. I would buy it! Pam’s final line in The Office :’)

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OP, I totally feel for you. I’m 26 and there are moments when I think that I am less accomplished than I thought I would be by now. Let me tell you, at times, I feel my 18 year old self might be disappointed. I also feel like my 20s have been marked by not taking chances and going the safe path. The reason many of us might feel unaccomplished is because we’re competitive overachievers. We like to compare ourselves to other and use that as a gauge for how “successful” we are. Here’s something I’m always told that puts things into perspective: There was a time in life when you wished for the things you have now. Be grateful for how far you’ve come and understand that it’s a blessing. Not many people in their 20s have savings, because of school debt or poor spending habits. The fact that you have something saved up, is good. Let’s stop comparing ourselves to others and just make sure we’re doing what makes us feel fulfilled. To be honest, there might be grunt work required. If it means going back to school, GO! If it means developing a new skill, develop it. Don’t ever let fear stop you from taking chances. At 26 I have decided that things are going to change and I’ll end my 20s in a way that I won’t regret.

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Hate. Finally about to get my CPA in a few months and I absolutely despise pursuing anything down the road of accounting Feels like I've wasted my youth and i really regretted it Yet at 25, I have no assets besides 15k in saving. My hairline is receding and I haven't been to the gym in 3 months I couldn't get up in the morning anymore because I'm depressed af This isn't the way to live. I dont know what I'm gonna do

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@kpmg2 I'm not sure why you think you missed your chance. I didn't start as a sr with kpmg till I was 29. Now I am leveraging my manager position here to get into Corp development. So far, I can definitively tell you that the 24 year old me would have thought this was an impossible dream. But the thing is, I never stopped going after I wanted. So no, it's never too late. Dream the dream man.

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25 is incredibly young, give yourself a break. I worked in what I thought I loved for 17 years, then decided it wasn’t going to get me where I wanted to be. At 37 went back to school for accounting and at 39 started as an intern in PA. You’ll probably find yourself in at least a few different careers over your long remaining work life, you’ll learn things all along the way you take to your next position. The time you’ve spent so far is by no means wasted.

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25? I started studying accounting at 26. Got my cpa at 30. It takes time to figure out what you want to do.

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Here's what you need to DO. Not think about, but DO. Sit down with a piece of paper in front of you and write down everything that you believe makes you unhappy. Money? Overworking? No friends ? No SO? Gaining weight? Receding hairline this young? Put it all down. Then rewrite it in order of importance. Then write the steps that you would need to take to be happier. Incorporate that into your daily routine. There are apps that are habit trackers, spend time looking for one this weekend and start building your routine. If you constantly just think about what makes you depressed, you'll stay depressed. Taking action is going to make you see the light at the end of the tunnel and will make you realize that where you are right now in life is only a hurdle, not the destination.

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OP, its uncanny how perfectly your post describes how I’ve been feeling. I’m also 25 and I’m dealing with all the same BS. I’m a chick so my hairline isn’t receding, but my long blonde hair is starting to grow in black and kinky, seriously I have long pube hairs sprouting from my scalp. Idk which is worse, but I feels. I can’t get out of bed in the mornings. I can’t fall asleep at night. I hate my job. I have no assets. I’m so depressed I don’t even know what I like to do for fun anymore. I know people like us need to move on from this career. So why don’t we? Personally I’m afraid of change. I don’t want to throw away the years I’ve invested in this thing that might make me real money some day. But I also have no idea what else to do career wise. I can’t conceptualize a career I’d actually enjoy. I’m sick of this, feeling miserable shouldn’t be the norm. But I don’t know how to change course or what that would even look like.

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Thanks EY15, this is helpful.

Time to move on g.

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I went back to school at 28 and started PwC after my masters at 33. I felt old too and was afraid people would judge me for making such a late change, but it's been a great experience. I think "old" is actually just the point where you concede and let your age prevent you from expanding.

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Relatable 😔

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I agree with what everyone else has already said but I also think you should consider therapy and maybe eventually medication if your depression is serious. Your job sounds like it is a big part of your unhappiness, but it could be part of an underlying mental health problem. Therapy can help you figure out where to go from here!

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This! OP, I was in your shoes just a year ago. I’ve been working through things in therapy, and while I’m not done, I feel better than I have in years. It takes a while to see any benefits (same with medication), so please please please be patient with yourself. And ignore the people on here who are minimizing your situation. Depression is no joke. Take care, OP. You deserve to be happy, whatever form that takes.

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I started my career at PwC at about 25 after wasting a couple of years in college going down a path I didn’t like. I’ve been an auditor since then. Look at times I ask myself what the hell did I do that added value today. But other times I think about the stuff I’ve done and who I’ve interacted with and it’s really interesting. I’m 34 now and am currently seconded to an Asian country. Most other expats that I meet outside of the office are older than me and have higher level positions (e.g. territory ceo, cfo, coo, own there own business, etc.). My point being that I wouldn’t otherwise have the opportunity to interact with these people on the regular at my experience level. As long as you don’t get complacent, you will be fine no matter if you stay or go

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I had this happen to me in public acct just after making manager and turning 30. Stress combined with ambivalence about my job and feeling like I missed the boat on what I should have done with my life. Started with panic attacks and turned into a full-on existential crisis and deep morbid depression. If this continues, please think about seeing someone and getting help. I resisted medication for a long time because of the stigma, which I’m sure prolonged my trouble. If none of this rings true, and you think this is just about hating your job and the insane demands, then yes, you’re still young enough to do whatever you want. Also, my younger brother has had good luck with Hims for his hair loss... ;)

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You are overwhelmed and won’t make all those changes at once. As others have said, start with really small Changes to make you feel better and stabilize. Don’t take it all on. I’m 34 this month and planning my career change. You CAN change your mind about your career with thoughtful planning if the money is the problem. But take it only as fast as you need to. Because you’re very young you can still start over if you like. If that’s a horrifying prospect, use your accounting skills to get into an organization and then change careers from inside (horizontal move).

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I can tell you I definitely felt the same my first time around - started at kpmg, didn’t last there and worked in a couple smaller public firms till getting fired and moving to another city and blowing up my life, which was the best thing that could have happened... ended up as a controller at a small company for a couple years before moving to England, never thought I’d go back to public either but I’m coming up on 3 years at PwC next month in internal audit and find it way better than tax or external - both of which I’ve done. I’m 35 now and feel way better than I did back then (and I’m not a manager, just a senior). I’ve been really unhappy in the past and there are definitely ups and downs - but you can change it and go do something else and maybe come back in the future or not - and it will get better. Maybe get the CPA and then move to something else... always is easier to get a new job when you already have one! Agree on medication as well, I’ve been on it and it absolutely helps, talking to a doc is good too

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It's probably hard to get out of bed but try to start small. Your environment has a huge impact. And you can control small parts of your environment. Take inventory of your life and clean house. Purge purge purge. The CPA exam is almost behind you too. New slate, new goals. It's never too late. How can you put the onus all on accounting? Make an exit strategy. It'll give you hope.

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The great thing about getting your CPA and starting in accounting is that you don’t have to stay in accounting. There are soooo many opportunities and ones that you are very qualified for. Accounting is a great place to begin but not a great destination for some.

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More often than not, when we feel the most unhappy is when it’s most challenging for us to do the things that make us happy. Force yourself out of the box your depression has put you into. Say screw it to all the obligations you think are holding you back from doing the thing that used to make you happy. Go do it. And then do it again. And again. I’ve been where you are. Trust me when I say that the first few times it sucks, you don’t want to go do anything that used to make you happy. You don’t feel excited about it anymore. You’ll tell yourself you have so many other things to do, you don’t have the time. You haven’t earned the right to do this thing. The fact of the matter is that we all deserve happiness, you don’t need to earn it.

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Left my full time job, got an internship in a small cpa firm for $10/hr, paid rent and health insurance for my daughter, finished MS started in big four at 31. CPA by 33 and sr Mangr now. So u may have a few years of time left!

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Just kidding, you’re just hyper ambitious and that’s a good feeling in a way. Means you won’t settle for mediocre performance.

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Anyone choose to switch from consulting to law school? Was always a good student and was thinking of taking lsat; wanted to go into corporate law specifically around supply chain (I’m a supply chain SA, 5 years exp). I know it’ll cost a lot from opportunity cost perspective but I think it is an area I’d like to get into.

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