I’m 28 and I have never been in a relationship because apparently I’m too selective. I’ve tried to be open to everyone, but they seem to only want flings and nothing more, which is why I haven’t been intimate with anyone in 5 years. This is just a few of my preferences:

- Educated
- Career-oriented
- 6 ft and above
- Non-smoker

- Open to all personalities except xssholes
- Open to all races

I was told to just sleep around since I’m not even 30 yet and to just have fun. Am I the only one?

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I thing 6 feet and above is the problem! You might want to drop it and you will have more options

Just consider a persons height is natural, so your soulmate might be 5.8 and because of these filters you haven’t find him yet

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I am 5.10 and dated a guy who is 6.4..just something to consider

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I am assuming from the height you are a guy into guys, OP. Now plenty of us didn’t start dating until late 20s or early 30s so don’t panic. But be realistic: by now most gay guys of your age have experience under their belt. You’re like the industry hire associate who can’t do PowerPoint, can seem a bit green. Take the “sleep around” comments more as an invite to core skills training. Practice with guys who are decent but not Mr Right. Sometimes they may surprise you. At a minimum you get more confident and attractive.

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Umm that’s what it sounded like

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What about a shorter guy in high heels?

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Don’t feel bad, 6’2 is a sexy. Dating a guy close to one’s height can feel more comfortable. You didn’t mention age as a variable. What are your lower and upper limits?

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25-35, I forgot to add that.

Is non-smoker just tobacco or weed as well?

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Glad you’ve opened up there 😊 no longer single, but as someone who meets the other criteria, it was a major red flag for me when I was dating when someone was okay with alcohol but super anti-weed

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👋 just not 6ft

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In terms of “educated,” what’s your baseline. Can you share your preference for activities, hobbies, and energy level? In terms of personality, leader or follower (e.g., weekend plans)?

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Think you’re missing out with this qualification. My bf did not go to college but he’s very well read and keeps up to date with the news on both sides of the aisle. Self taught code from the age of 10 and owns his own software company. Many people out there more intellectual than us who were fortunate enough to go down a more prescribed path. Keep an open mind :)

I think that the six ft thing is your problem. People 6ft with those qualities are the first to get snatched. Maybe open that up a bit

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It’s worth it. Your world opens up to a lot of quality guys

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It’s the 6 ft for me lmao 😜

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Yesss. 😂

Well... it is probably how you react to other people that turns them away from you, not you being selective. Just read what you wrote and how you wrote it. Everybody else is bad, icky, want only flings, etc and poor perfect you. Your list of requirements just add insult to injury.

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I feel you 💯. Similar situation except I started sleeping around. Sometimes I think it’s fun. Other times I leave sex even more empty.

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> 6ft —-f*ck you too jk

Yeah that’s super strict. Try 32 and no relationship :/ but I finally paid off my mom’s house and eyeing another promotion.

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Appreciate the advice @KPMG1

How many years have you slept around?

0*. 😂 I can still count on one hand how many people I’ve slept with and I knew them since childhood. 😂

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Not 6 feet 🥺🥺

Yes. 5’10 is the absolute lowest I can go. 😔

How tall are you to require 6 ft?

As you age, do you feel pressure to have commensurate sexual experience. How would you feel dating someone older than you with less experience, despite their age?

Vers-bot. More of a side :)

Oooh, I meet all your requirements! hit me up

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