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Set boundaries with work so that when you are home, you are fully present at home. And manage a shared schedule so that you know key times when you have to be home. It will work out fine, remember to always communicate and tell her you love her every night before you go to bed specially if you’re on the road.
More so: I’ve been traveling every week for the last 9 months for a couple different engagements. I fly her out and take her on vacations. It’s just different for her when I’m not physically there! Would love some tips!
Congrats on the engagement! My husband and I really make our weekends worth it with short trips and quality time together. We get the work done during the week so we can give our time to each other when we are together. We are also good about communicating while on the road but we were long distance for like 5 years so this life is second nature to us. Just be open about what you need to feel close, ask your partner what they need in return, and put in the extra effort when things get hard. Its challenging to be away so much, but I always keep in mind that absence makes the heart grow fonder!
Enter the relationship with open eyes. The travel is not going to change, so don’t feign any expectations that it’s going to get better. As long as she recognizes that you are not going to be there during the week, everything else is workable (eg outsource cleaning services, childcare / nanny if she works, grocery delivery, etc.)
Be present when you are home out of work hours, means no work, no phone calls. Make plans you two can look forward to together, whether it’s night outs or vacations your planning. Call every night, and text during the day at breaks to let her know you’re thinking of her.
Most important, have a wife that understands you travel for work and is ok with it (given you do things like I mentioned above)
I was just straight up with my leadership and said I wanted local projects. Sure I'll fly for a day or two if absolutely necessary, but otherwise I'm home 300-330 days of the year.
If being closer to your family is a priority, and being local is an ingredient for that to be true... Talk to your leadership. If they give you trouble look for a referral on fishbowl to a firm that offers better WLB and supports local staffing (e.g. Bain, slalom, acn)
I’m sorry to say this, and I don’t know you of course, but statistically speaking, you may want to consider a career shift. Consulting is hard on marriages for reasons too many to list. But the least obvious one is that the spouse left at home learns to live her life without you. Think about it. Why wouldn’t she. Doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you, it’s just a real world behavior that can’t be avoided. It makes it much easier to then drift apart, or at least not to grow intertwined together.
I have found that traveling and having time apart has actually made my relationship stronger! I have time to invest in my own interests, get my work done and feel a healthy independence from my husband. That doesn’t mean I learn to live without him entirely, but that we are different people who enjoy different things as well as our time together. Obviously everyone is different but I think that being independent enough to exist without each other, but choosing to exist together, is a healthy balance for us!
I think both of you have to compromise. Fully recognizing that you may love the work you, the travel that is involved, and the experience you’re getting...wifey may accept all of this and that’s great. But you in return should ensure that whatever time you have with her is just that...with her. Grind away during the work week, but when Friday/the weekend rolls around, your attention is on her and not your computer or phone. Many couples find sustainability in all of this, you make it what you both want.
Sometimes people forget this simple fact: when you are at work (in a client meeting or proposal, etc) you compartment yourself away from your family. Ruthlessly compartmentalize in reverse when you are with your family.
Consulting can be a grind but make sure you put as much work into your “engagement” (meaning your future wife) because just like clients, if you don’t continually win her heart, you risk losing the relationship.
She will see that the career means a lot to you and will be able to tell if you aren’t happy, often before you do so listen to her.
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Honestly I left the traveling behind and found something that was local that I was also passionate about. For me, traveling wasn't the part that gave me the most fulfillment it was the actual nature of the work.
When I was traveling we made sure to take advantage of the status and benefits and I tried not to work on weekends and nights but it's hard no matter what.
Try to outsource some tasks so that you can really enjoy your weekends together. One of the first thing I did when I started travelling was hire a cleaning lady so that we wouldn't need to spend time cleaning the house on the weekend.
The key is communication and making sure that you're both OK with this arrangement. Now, kids is where it starts becoming hard, especially if you're two professionals... I got off the road after my son was born, and have no regrets, even if career progression may be a bit slowed down.
manage the imbalance