I'm 32 and have been trying to get pregnant for 6 months... just got my period again and it is crushing my mood. Seems like everyone around me is expecting and I'm just deflated w/each announcement 😪

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Not sure how helpful this will be but I really found the book “the impatient woman’s guide to getting pregnant” really helpful for tips on everything from the best diet to help you conceive to exactly when and how often to have sex. I mean, I’m guessing you’ve already extensively researched all those things, but if not, you might find it helpful!

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OP- good luck! May I suggest you enjoy a stiff drink for those future 9 months you can’t when it all works out. 😄

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Just needed to get it off my chest. Can't really talk to anyone besides my husband (bless him), hoping for some supportive words from fellow 🐠 thanks 🙏

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Same boat. But since I’ve given up alcohol for the 3 weeks that matter, Aunt Flo now comes with a better-luck-next-time cocktail.

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Thanks for all the words of encouragement ladies. Feeling better today and hope C1 and DD1 are too 🤞

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I’ve been there. It sucks. I know whenever I’ve been struggling with this stuff, it seems like everyone you see if pregnant or has a baby.

I’d recommend seeing a fertility specialist whenever you’re feeling stuck (rather than waiting the full year), even if it’s just a consultation. Sometimes it can help set your mind at ease, or come up with a plan for what you’ll try in the coming months. Personally, I felt less helpless when I had a plan (even though there wasn’t a clear or guaranteed path). After a year of trying, we ended up exploring our options and doing IVF. It was not fun, but we’ve gotten through the bumps in the road and now I’ve got two awesome kids (a 3 year old and a 6 month old) and some embryos on ice if we decide we ever want to try for another.

It’s not an easy road for a lot of us. You’ll get there. In the mean time, take it easy on yourself! Do things that make you happy. You got this!

Thank you D1. I am seeing a new ob soon and will get a referral for a specialist. Just never thought I would be having this problem but I guess that's life 😬

It does suck. I struggled for over a year but now have three. My sister struggled for 3 years and went to IVF for her first two and then had a 3rd unassisted. Hang in there - and definitely find some people to talk to.

Also r/TryingForABaby gives me a great outlet. Join us!

I have no advice, but wanted to say good luck!

I waited until 36, and had been on birth control for 18 years, so I talked to my Doc about my concerns. He cautioned not to get stressed if it doesn't happen for up to a year. Most women, he said, take an average of 6 months to conceive and when coming off birth control your cycle may take a few months to get back into a consistent rhythm. If you need peace of mind, get the referral, but they will possibly tell you to wait anyways. Try not to stress (I know, not really helpful) Enjoy the trying!

I feel you - out first took around a year, and it is super frustrating. Hugs!

I’m in the Exact same position. Same age and same length of trying. Crazy. I bawl my eyes out every month when I get my period...and it sucks because mine is irregular. We just have to keep the faith that it will happen when it is supposed to. And it will.

Are you tracking your cycle /ovulation? If something seems amiss, there's no reason to wait a year! My doctor basically told me she couldn't do anything (medication, specialist referral) bc we hadn't been trying for a full yet, despite very obvious issues with my cycle. Needless to say, that was the last time I saw her. Found a specialist, and moved on to treatment bc issues were obvious. That give it a year advice should definitely be caveated. Get to know your body and cycle, and if something seems off, get help asap.

Are you traveling? Took me almost a full year and while I think part of it was irregularity with my cycle, I also think the travel made it way harder. It always felt like I wasn’t in the right city at the right time! So don’t be too hard on yourself - there are a lot of factors that play a role.

I’m 33 and was in the same boat. Don’t lose hope! When my husband and I decided we wanted to try I waited 6 months after getting off birth control before trying and then it still took nearly 6. My cycle was all over the place; I think it takes time to stabilize on its own and our lifestyle doesn’t help. Got an ovulation predictor kit (pee on a stick) in December and got pregnant in January. Was also on a pretty heavy supplement regime and ate a high fat low carb diet. Try not to stress about it; see someone if you have tried all of the diets, ovulation is normal, etc

Ladies, I have the perfect solution for you. Sounds kind of crazy but I was desperate for a baby too and tried this method and it worked (for me and my friends). Please beware my description may be a bit graphic.

After you have sex (guy deposits his little boys in you), immediately prop your butt in the air (put like 1-2 pillows under your butt). Lay like that for 10-15 minutes (read a magazine or something). Sometimes the little guys need help with gravity and direction to inseminate your little girls. After the time passes, go about your day (I would think you’ll shower after coitus because of the personal smells during the exchanges).

Try this out and let me know how it goes. Good luck!!!

My cycle was irregular and I couldn’t figure out when I was/if I was ovulating. Tried for 6 months and then talked to OB. She started tests right away and I got pregnant on my first cycle of clomid. Don’t wait a year - see a new doc if they tell you to wait.

Just wanted to let you know, you’re not alone. My husband and I are trying too and it hasn’t worked out for us yet, however, it is important to keep your head up! ❤️ Have a great week OP!

What really helped me was using an app called kindara. I used it to track my cycle and when I was ovulating.

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