I'm a immigrant from India, living here in US from past one year. I'm gay but married to women in India. I have a 2 year old kid. My family is still in India and planning to join in few months. I feel of finding freedom here, I'm able to hang out with gays n have a good gay social life. But, at times I wonder on how would my future look like and get scared of it. I don't know how to work it out and the way out.

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