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I'm a relatively new parent of a 1yo. Ever since coming back from mat leave, people have started saying the wildest shit to me at work. Men constantly question my abilities despite leadership promoting me twice since returning. For example: I wasn't invited to a shoot I was co-leading because they "thought I wouldn't be able to make it because I have a baby." And when I am on set, constantly being asked "who's taking care of the baby if you're here?" It goes on and on. Does this get easier?

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I would call them out on it. As in I will let you know if I can or can not make it to something, and do no assume anything just because you have a child. I would also start documenting these conversations, recordings, emails, and report them to HR so it’s noted. If they try to fire you, that’s one heft lawsuit.

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Agree to nip it in the bud. I’d give the benefit that they think they are being considerate and giving you space, but letting them know you appreciate that but you are good and, just like anyone for any reason, you’ll let them know if you have scheduling conflicts.

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I’ve read the best way to shut down these kinds of inappropriate questions is to respond with a question in a non-confrontational tone. Basically play like you don’t understand the question. It makes people rephrase and therefore rethink why / what they are asking. For example: Coworker: if you’re here, who is taking care of the baby? You (playing confused) oh, what do you mean?

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Its not about playing dumb. It's about questioning. Both options ("what do you mean?" And "why do you ask?") Have the same purpose and mean the same thing. What do you mean by asking that? Either way it asks the other person to think about what they are implying.

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This is such a double-edged sword, because a lot of parents (not just moms) desperately need consideration and flexibility when kids are being told to quarantine and can’t be at school - so telling colleagues to stop being considerate of each other’s outside lives wouldn’t be great. But if you’re getting comments a lot about childcare and getting cut out of things, I’d be responding to the most prolific commenters with a bold statement about how your childcare arrangements are matters for you and your family to handle, and you will advise anyone who needs to be aware of adjustments to your workload or schedule. (If they are a PITA, I’d then look that person in the eye and say, if you haven’t been advised of adjustments, it’s because your opinion and interference on my workload or schedule isn’t required.)

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Have responses ready - and make them just as strong and shocking as their dumb ass comments!! Call out the bias kindly otherwise

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“I left them in the backyard. It’s fenced so they can’t get into anything.”

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This just made me furious! For women, it’s 2022. For men, it’s 1950.

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That’s so wild.

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I would respond with sarcasm. “What do you mean? She’s taking care of herself. She’s very advanced for her age.” Usually that shows them how stupid their question is.

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I would say: "Is in daycare. Where are your kids while you are here?" If they persist, start to write everything down. Best of luck.

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“I was also surprised to see you here! Enough about me, who’s taking care of your dog/cat/kid/parent/shoe collection while you’re here?”

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The 70ies called and want their opinion about working moms back

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Unbelievable about assuming you don’t want to go create something on set. I was 7 months pregnant with my second and defending my ACD about giving her the opportunity to make the decision because she was a breastfeeding mother. First of all, it’s not your decision to make, and second of all, as the producer, she and I can work out all the necessary details to assist with breastmilk shipping.

Just let the woman decide, if there is even an option.

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