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I would go for a place that feels like home and being closer to family. My family is in another country and I miss them terribly. I thought I could always go back, but actually it would be difficult for me for several reasons.
Parents don’t last forever; my parents are old and I’m so sad thinking of the time I’m missing and when it will be too late.
You’re young and with good family values; I’m sure dating won’t be an issue. You’ll be happier and in a place you like, which makes for better dating and relationship prospects.
Same boat.. and probably from the same country))
28M single. Gave up lease and used my parents place as home base. In order to make sure I’m not giving up some years like this, I’m traveling around the country and working remotely getting to be a tourist on the weekends. I’ve already done Florida, Texas, and Nashville. Have a couple others planned before return to office.
I don’t love the city. I almost rented my own place without roommates at the end of my last lease because I was more focused on dating seriously.
So far it’s been great. Dating seriously can be an issue if you’re a nomad tho.
I have not been traveling and wish I was. Most of my friends are in medical field though or not single, so they can’t just up and go to another city or Airbnb somewhere else for extended trip to share cost 😞 glad to hear someone is out there doing this!
Single 26F, this hit hard with the truth 😂 same position, am 100% considering moving back to hometown area permanently once my lease ends. Then travel more once that’s better again.
Why are you people still paying high rent. Just stay with your parents if you can, once your lease ends. You can always buy them groceries and help out in the house. If you really want space then get an Airbnb somewhere for the weekend. Covid really isn't going anywhere with these foolish anti-vaxxers refusing to help bring down the contagion. There will be more variants adapting to the vaccines in a few months too.
Yeaaa... I love my parents but I also value my mental health. I wouldn’t live with them but I would want to be close to them
29F here and I feel ya. Plus rent is so expensive in the city. I really question if it’s worth it
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Having better dating prospects in the city where my apt is? It’s not like I take advantage or really even got out prior to the pandemic because I don’t have many friends here.
I am in almost the exact same boat as you, except im a woman and 10 years older. Maintained an apt that I went to probably once a month but didn’t use it aside from a mental health break / booze fest weekend to let off steam. The cost of living in the city my apt is in, is 2.5x where my parents live.
I faced the same decision as you, somewhat abruptly because my lease is ending April 30th. I opted to get another apt in that high col city because I expect life to be somewhat normal by summers end.
Are your parents healthy? I have one left and she has some extreme respiratory issues/health concerns so giving up a year of my life to care for her was a no brainer for me. Was it a waste of $40k in rent? Absolutely. But I needed to know I had a place of my own that I could visit if and when I needed to.
I’m not sure if this helped but I’d say there is no wrong answer. It’s whatever you feel comfortable with. Independence is important for personal growth too.
Good luck!
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Wow, I’m the only one feeling opposite. I was living in nyc, early pandemic stayed with parents, then bought a nice house near my hometown. Moving back to suburbs feels like a massive culture shock/lifestyle, My friends are busy with their yards, kids, dogs, Home Depot. I miss the city, the people, intellectual stimulation, events, culture, arts, restaurants, even walking around. I am miserable, and I think I’m also “mourning” the pre pandemic life.
25 M Single. Same boat as you. I can’t wait to see what our ‘future of work is’. I want to move home, or move to a city closer to home. Where I’m at now has nothing there for me (besides work) but WFH has changed that. I’m lonely and visit home often (I’m here now). Plus I would save so much money. I just don’t know how HR/Work would feel about me moving across the country with an office not close by. My mental health is taking a huge hit and I’ve been considering new jobs that are closer to home.
Literally SAME boat. I love my current city but feeling the same lonliness and was genuinely just happier the last several months being near my family in my home city. In the last month I decided to pull the trigger, quit my job (got another one) and move back to my home city. Will miss the current city but not worth the added loneliness
Yah long term — I’m done renting. I want to buy a spot now. I lived in a few different cities already but as I grow older I’m now okay with moving back home and “settling.” In fact all of my friends did the same — left and came back. I’m sure if it wasn’t for covid folks wouldn’t have come back as soon, but everyone’s timeline has shifted — including mine. Wrt dating, I just have to be more proactive. I think I’ll be fine so long as I put in the added effort. It’s not like I’m moving to boonie town, so I’m trying to be positive about it. WORST case, I’ll sell the house I purchased and move again. Nothing is REALLLYY permanent.
Do what makes you happy. Simple as that.
Staying with parents isn't a bad thing rather it's a wonderful part of life !
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I’d be buying a house lol
I’m in the same boat in my early 30s. Renewed my lease in February. With the strong opinion we’d be back to normal life in the summer. Seeing how things are going at this point, I’m not sure we’ll be better by summer and I’m reconsidering whether I want to stay in the city. The isolation and long work hours have been brutal. I don’t have an answer yet, but putting together a plan to come to one. Is success holding out in the city in isolation for my career? Will my career be negatively impacted if I leave? There’s no good answer, sometimes it is simply a leap of faith.
Yes, I do too, except my family is in another country and I wasn’t able to see them through the pandemic. Finally I’m going there in June.
I’ve been thinking about it a lot and realized that I achieved many things in this country but not what’s the most important and not the comfort of my soul. I realized that I belong where I was born.
OP I gave up my place and am at home. It was an adjustment, but honestly, it’s nice having people around while the world is on fire + I’m more mindful about catching up with friends v. Just talking to the people that stayed back. Also it will be better in a few months
So - it’s not just you. This whole 1+ yr has just battered everyone mentally and it’s totally normal to go for comfort
Join a club and make new friends prioritize those friends and don’t get fired from your job. Pursue happiness not your career
Charlotte?
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Be patient and don’t make any immediate decisions or changes as things will continue to change in the coming months. Right now isn’t the time to make decisions that you could regret in a couple months. We are a number of positive changes with going back to work.
Only you can answer that question bro
Damn I’m the exact opposite of 99% of this thread