I’m a very emotional and sensitive person. I find that dating apps and social media really mess with my mental health, even though I don’t even use it much. Should I just accept that these are not for me?

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Believe you are lovable and have a lot to offer. Don’t rule out dating apps/social media as a way to meet people. Use that and continue to put yourself in places where you’re likely to meet single people IRL. Let your colleagues, family and friends know you’re open to being set up on dates 😁!

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Go out and do things! Go meet people. Want a partner that cares about people? Go do volunteer work and see who you meet.

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They’re not for you! Not for me either. Not for pretty much anyone. They are for corporations to harvest your data, and then emotionally manipulate you into buying stuff!

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Good question! Many of us have asked ourselves this. You’re not alone! I scaled back on my usage significantly with social media. There have been studies regarding depression and anxiety from social media, and if you feel it’s affecting you negatively I would give scaling back or completely removing it a shot. You might just find that you’re on it too much. Also are you looking at things that depress you like an ex‘s page or sad news constantly or reading sad articles? Being mindful of what you’re reading and watching is important for your mental health and exercising a level of control. Also, I know some people who just don’t have it at all and they love their life without it. I personally have taken breaks from it for six months at a time and it’s made me learn a lot about my connection with it. I would say go with your intuition and trust if some thing is telling you to shut it down for a while then just shut it down and log your feelings in the process afterwards. :) this showed me from a distance more what it was kind of doing to me and I read some things about it on the Internet that enlightened me about how I can use it better. Also I started taking the men on dating apps with a grain of salt, and not taking them as seriously. There’s a lot of foolishness on dating apps, and a lot of people just out to take from others. If you’re going to stay on dating apps I would also recommend adding trying to meet people in other ways in your life. I had to do this also. So I’m trying to find it new friends in new environments to hang out in and particularly where it’s some thing I love. For example I love the beach. I would love to meet a nice person there, my friend loves hiking and she joined a hiking meet up group and met her boyfriend there. My other friend wants to learn cooking in a new language, so she signed up for those kinds of classes or meet up groups, etc. At least you’ll be doing something you love in the process even if you don’t meet anyone, and if you do meet someone you both have something in common! :)

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Yeah, what's forcing you to use them?

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Just the desire to meet a partner 😭

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I’ve significantly reduced my social media usage for this same reason, no regrets!

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Yes, apps are bad and dehumanizing

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I don’t use dating apps so I don’t really have any advice there, sorry! As far as social media goes, it’s so depressing!! I watched some documentaries about social media and it was eye opening! I made the decision to use social media like a tool instead of a social place since they’re using us for profit and not to provide us a free place to connect. I block out every news post that comes up cuz I don’t want to get my news on social media, I joined groups for my hobbies on Facebook and followed accounts that have to do with my hobbies on Instagram. I use social media to interact with other people who like to do the same hobbies as me and it’s totally changed the perspective. Turns out that seeing everything everyone you ever went to school with your entire life all the time is not a positive thing lol! Regardless of if you think they’re annoying, better off than you or great! It’s a wonderful idea to be connected but the climate of social media has really turned it all toxic. I only friend people I actually know in real life on Facebook and then on Instagram I only follow people I’m interested in seeing content from. Since I made these changes I don’t have any negative feelings toward social media like I used to.

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