I’m a woman at a large agency with even distrib. of m and w. Every instance of side eye, snarky comment, or we-just-met-but-I-decided-I-don’t-like-you attitude has come from a fellow woman. (Cont)

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So long as we are generalizing... that’s more of an account thing than woman thing. And legacy ad agencies are the slowest to change in every aspect

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I straight up call people out on attitude and snark. But not by returning it. I ask them directly— what’s up with that comment? Is there something I’m not catching? Usually puts their guard down.

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I love this approach. Thanks for sharin will be stealin

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do think there is a valid point here. some of the worse bullying & blocking i have experienced has been from fellow women. we can’t be going around hating on men if we don’t recognize and fix our own flaws, and define our authentic leadership.

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I think there is still a subconscious idea that the growth opportunities are limited and so women are ‘fighting’ for them. Rather than understanding that potential growth has no limit and by supporting and helping others does not diminish your personal opportunity. Once that is the more subconscious understanding, women will generally be holding each other back

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and do it our way not theirs.

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Maybe they aren’t women and identify as men? Maybe we make a Gillette ad calling out all women for the flaws of a few? Maybe we do away with genders all together? Why do we still have actor and actress awards ? To answer your question...not sure, but it starts early. My daughter gets it in second grade. “Girls will be girls."

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Love bomb them with some good energy. They won’t know what hit them and they’ll stop being judgy. Also, when we someone gives me the once-over from head to toe I ask them how they like my outfit. They’re always caught off-guard when I acknowledge it. Lol.

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Hahah love this, good tip!

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OP, I hear you And the solution isn't to "blame" other women for how they're forced and conditioned to behave due to systemic issues called out in above commentary already. We get these posts a lot, including in the women's bowl, and they're somewhat unhelpful because you're now indirectly propagating the female reputation of being catty bitches to the general public. I'd work on forming relationships with those women, trying to empathise and win them over with kindness and frank conversations as mentioned above. Developing interpersonal communication skills on your part. And not letting other people's unmet needs and frustrations manifesting as hostility to you affect you personally. You nave to understand it's never about you, It's about them and their insecurities or problems. Approach it that way for your own sake and theirs.

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Thanks for the comment. Honestly, I’m finding it hard to see the “systemic issues” argument these days - no one is “forced” to do anything It’s not hard to just not be rude. Everyone has the ability to do this in 2019.

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(Cont) Why do we do this? How do we change this, starting now?

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Women often hate each other. Just look at how they look at another woman walking into a room. The so-called Sisterhood is trendy right now, but this can’t be news to anyone, aside from some oblivious men I guess.

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