I’m a woman in software consulting where there is 1 woman for every 6 men. (I’m talking strictly STEM.) I’m also a friendly type who likes her alcohol. I am ALWAYS the only girl at the hotel (con’t)

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You do you as long you aren't getting wasted no one cares (this goes for young guys too).

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Same boat. I hate eating in my room. Just be careful. I have been followed to my floor.

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As one of the females who prefers to go up to her room I don't think you have anything to worry about. I used to worry that I'm looked at poorly since I don't socialize, but unwinding for me is the gym and some down time. The grass is always greener

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It is sad to me that you even have to worry about this. Men and women both need to master self control but beyond that, go out, be social, have a drink or two, be responsible, and don’t do anything you wouldn’t want everyone in the firm knowing about tomorrow.

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No, enjoy and take care of yourself

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bars after work amongst all the men. Does this make me look bad? I don’t want to be a hermit up in my hotel room, but every other girl seems to do just that. But I’m worried that I may look a little trashy because of it. BTW I’m only 23 so there’s the young factor, too.

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Nope doesn't matter. I was in the same boat, figure it how to embrace it!

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Do what you enjoy, just don't get too drunk at office dos. Applies regardless of age, gender, or grade.

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Nope. I don’t thjnk so. I’m guessing being in Stem you are used to@it to an extent already

As a seasoned female consultant I have a policy that I never drink with men from work. I’ve had too many of them suddenly kiss and grab me and it’s not worth the unwinding to deal with the aftermath of that crap. I stay in my room and I don’t drink at all unless I’m at home or with friends.

I did when I was in my 20s. I have stopped except for rare occasions, mostly because I am usually tired and/ or can’t risk a headache (risk of hangovers increases with age for most people). I would have said I did so without significant issue, in fact, I would have said being “one of the guys” helped me from a relationship perspective. But in hindsight, I was never one of the guys and there were many situations that had to be dealt with that I no longer have to deal with...

Female engineer-turned-consultant here, at male-heavy events I generally cap my drinks at "warm relaxed feeling" and maintain physical distance. Also, I avoid 1:1 bar situations unless its a good friend

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