I’m at home quarantining with my parents and it has made me realize how my father actually has severe OCD/depression. I try not to lose my temper with him because he’s very frustrating at times. What should I do?

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Have you talked to him to gently get him to acknowledge that he has a problem? If you can get there then maybe some virtual counseling

Yeah, he finally acknowledged that there was something going on, but he hasn’t been trying to fix it...at least it doesn’t appear so

Do you think it is OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) or OCPD (obsessive compulsive personality disorder). I did some digging as I believe my partner has OCPD. I think you approach them differently

One key distinction is that OCD the person has this need to do something but they can't control it and wish they could get rid of that need. Ughh those books on the shelf are so messy. Let me rearrange them. Ugh still not good need to rearrange it. Did you move it? It's messy! Rearrange again and again. I wish I didn't have to keep fixing it. Why can't this be good enough.

OCPD (unhealthily) sees that obsessive compulsion as positive trait . Ugh. Why are you so messy. Why can't you be clean and organized like me. You're not as good as I am. I'm going to rearrange it my way. Your way is inferior.

Still not clear if it's OCD or OCPD from your details. The main key is him recognizing it and wanting to make it better.

OCPD it's harder because why should they change? They have a positive attribute. They think it makes them better because of the obsessive cleaning. What could help in this case is the "cost" of this trait. It literally costs money, time, your relationship, etc. That can be part of what he will need help with what is more important.

OCD they wish they could get rid of it. They want it to go away, but don t know how, are shamed, etc. This one is easier than OCPD but not easy in general. The psychiatrists I spoke with mentioned they needed work to gradually wean away from the obsessive practices.

See if EY assist program with 5 free visits can help. Hopefully there are some therapists near you or offer remote services to you

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