I’m breaking up with my partner. He’s smart, kind, handsome and all the things, but I don’t think I’m ready for a relationship. I kind of jumped into it head first and have been unsure

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If you’re still hung up on an ex then you’re definitely not ready for a relationship. I made this mistake over summer. I tried dating and found someone else but it just didn’t feel right. Deep down I knew they weren’t for me and I just wasn’t ready to date them. I did what needed to be done. I’m so glad I broke up with them.

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I think the best you can do is show respect to the guy you’re dating now and sit him down, talk it through with him and let him know it’s not really something that he caused or can change, it’s just where you are emotionally.

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Do it clear and clean. That’s the best thing you can do. It will hurt no matter what but not giving false hopes will help them bounce back. You are doing the right thing.

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from the beginning, but I am so scared to do it. Any advice on how to break up with someone and not completely ruin their feelings?

You can’t expect them to take it well. You’re breaking up with someone, and that always sucks more for the person being left. In the end do what’s best for you. Don’t tell them why you’re leaving. no one likes to hear that they’re being left due to feelings for someone else. Just tell them you realized you’re just not ready to date. Let them know they’re a good person but they’re just not for you. Don’t mention getting back together because that only gives false hope sometimes

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How old are you OP?

Honestly I get how he feels, having been broken up with I feel like my ex betrayed my trust because he never shared how he was feeling previously until it became so much for him to handle that he felt it needed to end. If he didn’t really know anything about your feelings towards your ex and you were putting on a good front for him I can definitely see how he’s questioning a lot of things and got caught off guard. But every situation is different, everyone comes to terms with things in their own way at their own time. When you realized you weren’t in the relationship for the right reasons, you were honest and you ended things, which is the most responsible thing to do. So for now let him process the shock of it all and take care of yourself!

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the question5 I would ask is why?

why did you jump in?
why aren’t you ready?

There really is no way of breaking up without having some hurt feelings.

I would say he’s an ex for a reason.

CNBC My thought is that you have a fear of missing out

You can’t enjoy and appreciate what you have because you’re busy looking backwards. Which, is incredibly unfair to the person you think is a great guy.

Pick a spot keep it moving stop looking back

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