I'm Chinese, was seeing a mental therapist for my long term depression/anxiety. After he learnt that I'm Chinese he became very obsessed with trying to explain everything I was suffering using...

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Fire him. Chinese here, had an old Jewish lady as my therapist and she was so wonderful in understanding my background and upbringing without ever projecting anything on me. You need to find someone like that.

This is like dating though, it’s a hit or miss. Chemistry matters. Feel free to keep switching until you find someone that clicks. Mine is out of network for me and I’m willing to pay more for her.

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..."you are depressed because your gov suppress you" "you get anxious because you believe in communism which does not allow free choice" "the solution is to try staying in this country and don't go back to mainland China" etc. He doesn't even try to understand my relationship, work life balance or even how long have I worked in this country already, he just kept trying to bring the topic to "how horrible China is as a country" referring to news that aren't even from fox news or new york times (which are already pretty bad in terms of bias) but from some random conspiracy theory youtube channel. Wtf. Is he even a qualified therapist at all.

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Wasted my time and money completely. Thought it wouldn't be too bad going for someone who has a decent personal website and has lots of titles that seems professional. Wonder how can find a good therapist. I'm losing so much patience and hope on those external things that potentially can help me.

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It may be to your advantage to find one now, while they're offering sessions via the internet. My mother is a therapist and she would be the first to tell you that if you're not comfortable or don't like the person, find another one. There are plenty out there. Good luck and don't give up. You're worth it.

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That’s terrible!

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I am so sorry about your experience OP. I am also Chinese and when I was searching for a therapist I was specifically seeking out a person of color or someone who specializes in therapy for POC. I was lucky and I found a woman who specializes specifically with Asian clients! I hope you find someone who is a better fit 💕

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You should definitely report him on some sort of professional license board. There are a lot of bad therapist out there. Finding the right one can be a journey and depressing at the same time.

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