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There is never a perfect time to have a child. If you want to start a family soon, then you should do it! Just be prepared. Children = sacrifice, so their may be some social and other types of events that you may not be able to attend
There's really no right age/career stage imo but there is a right mindset. If you're a couple that loves going out, working crazy hours, making last minute plans, etc then even if you're 40, then it's not the right time unless you want to completely outsource the whole parenting thing, in which case, why bother? But if you're a couple that understands and wholeheartedly accepts that it will mean less flexibility (both socially for both you and professionally to some degree for at least one of you), then regardless of your age/career level, just go for it if it's what you both want.
I had my daughter before my first job, right after graduation. It depends on your mindset, and for me, a family/in-law support system which we’re grateful we had.
Go for it! The kids will benefit from young parents, it will be easier for you to bounce back after sleepless nights, and when they are grown and off to college, you'll be in your 40s, peak of your career so will have time to earn enough for college and retirement. I had mine at 30 which felt right and was right for me. But now I'm about 50 and feeling financial and "caregiver" crunch now that my parents are getting old. Enjoy the sweet babies as soon as you feel like it. You'll thank me when you're 50 and traveling the world.
It’s tough, I was staff level when I had kids, luckily communicating with management made my life more flexible. Setting up expectations helped myself take care of my kids and management with scheduling considerations.
You shouldn’t wait. It’s harder to have kids once you get older 😔
I think it's a fine balance. While it's true you are never "ready", my wife and I married and had kids at a younger age (24/22 - yes I'm younger😃) and it definitely made it harder on us. We'd been married for 2 years before having our first. We were both just starting our careers, so finances were really tough. The reason being the cost of daycare was roughly equivalent to my wife's salary, so we decided she would stay home with our first. By the time our second kiddo was a toddler, my wife was forced to work due to finances. I never fault any couple who both work when they have kids, but I do believe it's best if one parent is able to stay home for a couple of years. Without some help from my parents-in-law, it would have been even more tough. I'm not trying to scare, but finances cause alot of stress on marriages. All that being said, it worked out for the best for us. My wife went through cancer right after our second kid was born. And we made the decision it was too risky to have any more after. We wouldn't trade our kids for the world, and it will be nice to have an empty house when we are young (I'll be 43). Sorry for the long post.
Yes , others will think you are too young to have kids and later these same smart a** will say may be he is too old to have kids now😬😬. Go for it.The current generation has a very radical view compared to the previous generation in raising family etc etc. As someone who had 2 kids when I was a senior and had to travel half the way around the world, it seemed daunting for a young parent without much family to extend some help.At the end of the day despite the sacrifices and some element of sarcasm from fellow colleagues initially we really believe it is worth it every single day, to see the bright innocent smiling face of your kids when you head back home , after a turbulent day at office. Choice is yours but don’t let your colleagues or professional environment dictate the family you want to start . And yes , being a young parent is good too for your kids 👍👍
Agree there’s no right time but i had my kid as a manager and found it much easier to draw boundaries and give myself the flexibility I needed as a mom
I had my first kid about 1 year into LEK and was shocked at how accommodating and manageable my teams made things for me