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Anyone has heard about Transperfect?
Three month old!
Any Immigration lawyers here?
Happy Mother’s Day all!! You ladies rock!!
Oh dear, I am so sorry to hear this. I’m a single mom and got a divorced prior to my son’s first birthday. Best decision of my life and I finally felt like I could live and breathe and become a better mom for it. I have not regretted it once!
That said, he was not a good fit for me. However, when did your issues start? If it’s after baby, give this time to cool off. I agree with PM1, first year after a child is the hardest on a marriage.
If you truly think this is the right time to let go: Transition is hard, so you REALLY need to lean in to your support system. Anyone really. I’m happy to be one of them. There will be days where you are lonely. There will be days where you do not want to do anything. I eat out a lot during that phase. As for returning to work, start looking for day care now! Having that sorted out will help you transition back to work with less stress. Be gentle with yourself: either in life, parenthood, or the state of your home (mess). Take this time to heal yourself and be there for your child. Everything else comes 3rd or 4th or not on the list at all. YOU matter, your baby matters, nothing else.
I would also seek therapy to help you on your healing journey if that’s possible :) best of luck and best wishes to you!!!
Thanks all. Unfortunately my partner relapsed which is causing the separation. It’s been hard but now that the custody paperwork has been signed I am feeling like I can breathe again knowing I’m creating a stable environment and home for my son. I’m just a bit panicked with managing an infant alone and the demands of a big job. But many women have done this before me and many will do this after me. We are women. We will get through it and be better off in the long road
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Is it salvagable? The first year of baby is hella hard, even for the best most aligned couples.
I am very sorry, that sounds incredibly stressful. I hope everything works out for you. I think the bowl below is fairly new but may me a community you find helpful as you navigate this next step of life.
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Kids are amazing but also hard . Yes women have done this , I am doing it and you can too! But I didn’t realize back then the toll a new baby takes on the mom. So you might have to ask for help , if your family is reliable or if you can afford a nanny. I am not sure how custody will work since he relapsed . But it’s going to be tough . That being said , please acknowledge your pain, you are not just a mom , priories your mental health . Ask for help . Seek therapy . And nourish your body . See if you can trade some responsibilities at work. Turning for phone for one weekend is also helpful. You can and you will do it . But you cannot forget about yourself . Good luck !