I’m embarrassed that I don’t already know. What is the proper etiquette for giving wedding gifts if you decline the wedding invitation?

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It’s an invitation not a subpoena, etiquette-wise you are required to RSVP by the deadline. That’s it.

If you want to send a gift, send a gift. If you don’t, or can’t afford it, don’t.

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I believe you still go ahead and send, mail , throw the gift. You can attach a note apologizing for not being able to participate/attend their big day and wish them all the best. All this is assuming you are fond of the person and you do want the best for them. If not , save your money and don't feel obligated.

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If I don’t go I don’t give a gift

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Etiquette says you still send a gift, but depending on how close you are with the couple you may be able to get away with not sending one. Emily Post has a website that’s great for these types of questions

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🤷‍♀️ I didn’t make the rules, IBM. OP asked what the etiquette was, and that’s what the etiquette books say. OP doesn’t have to follow formal etiquette if they don’t want to

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You can buy off their registry or if you wanted to and can afford to, you can send a cash gift which many would appreciate.

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Are you not attending due to schedule/expense/health reasons, or because you don’t really like the person that much?
It’s nice to send a gift or at least a handwritten card to show you are happy for them and wish them well. A “no” RSVP with nothing else in the way of good wishes could be interpreted as you don’t like or care about the person (which you may not, but think carefully about if that is the message you want to convey)

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