I’m feeling torn. I don’t really have best friends, have friends but no one I feel like I’m dying to have in the party. I could just do siblings. Would it be weird to ask my fiancés brothers wife? We live in different cities so aren’t very close but I like her. Alternative is to just not have a bridal party.

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I’m not having a bridal party! And it’s honesty been so freeing. Both my fiancé and I do have close friends, but don’t want to deal with the drama of it all. I (F) also have many more close friends than him so we didn’t want the numbers to be super unbalanced. Our wedding is also quite expensive and we loved the idea of saving money where we could (as the others mentioned above). There are tons of pros of going sans bridal party!

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I’m very similar and we’re only doing siblings! 1 each. Don’t feel obligated to ask people for the sake of it. It’s totally fine to do minimal or none. This is about you!

Also, we’ve saved tons of money not having a huge bridal party… no matching pj sets, gifts, hair and makeup, etc. Also don’t have to show up at 8am just to get everyone ready on time on that way. Lots of pros to keeping it small!

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I ditto all of this! We are also keeping it small with one each. It can be easier to not have a bunch of people to coordinate with, and we have saved money on hair/make up, florals (less bouquets) etc!

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We did siblings only, and didn't sort by gender. My brother and sister stood on my side, my husband's sister stood on his side.

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My BP is a few of my cousins and that’s it. It is nice to have people who are helping a little with small planning things/ will get ready with me/ will plan the Bach party - think thru how you want to do those three things that a BP might normally do and you are all set I don’t think you need a BP at all.

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It’s not weird to ask her, it’s a nice way to honor her if she matters to you. But there is nothing wrong with skipping having it. We’re not messing about with it.

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Nope not weird. Our wedding will be family and a close friend. I have lots of friends but no life long friends, so I have a “man of honor”, which is my brother. My groom will have a best man.

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