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Bruh. Block dat beezy on EVERYTHING, and go out with your friends. Cliche but time heals all, yadda yadda.. but trust me when I say, it's hard as hell to think about a break up when you're worried about breaking up on the floor when you're skydiving with your best buds from 40000 feet
OP: NOOOOOO MAN. DON'T BE HAVING SUICIDAL THOUGHTS. IF YOU EVER GET THE URGE TO FOLLOW THROUGH ON HURTING YOURSELF, PLEASE SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY.
I mean, you gotta cut of the communication. Cold turkey man. It's the first step to recovery. You aren't together anymore. Also, I never understood it but I don't think you can remain friends with an ex.
I'm a girl and was in the same situation you're in... regardless of what happened I'd help him with his problems and he realized at one point that he lost something good. Cutting it off is the best\ way for you to get over it though. If you wanna talk more, happy to do so :)!
OP! Post a burner and we can chat
She shouldn't be depending on you for her problems anymore. What she's doing is making it harder for you to heal and move on, so for your own sake, perhaps communicate that to her you need space and could consider being friends later.
Most people are takers instead of givers in any relationship be it platonic or romantic. Don't feel guilty for not being there for her when you need to take care of yourself now so you can give your best to someone later. Heartbreak and experiencing a new void you're used to being filled sucks, but time will heal. Stay strong, OP. I'm cheering for you.
That being out of the way, I went through the same exact thing you did. I spoke with her for about a month after the breakup and then had to cold turkey it. I came to that 'aha' moment that the only way I could move on was to cut it off. Trust me, time will help. It may not seem like it now, but you will get through this. Just find other ways to occupy your time with people that care for you and eventually you'll stop thinking about her as much.
Bruh. It's me again. Suicidal thoughts aren't cool. Know what is cool? Talking it out. Sounds like your mum is a strong anchor for you. Give her a ring, and she'll tell you the same things we are. TRUST US, you are NOT the first (or last) to feel this sort of pain through a breakup. Time/new love will heal your pain. It's all part of life's roller coaster. If you need to talk, post a burner email and you gon' get FLOODED bruh. Out.
Same situation OP! But guess what, it gets better. You'll cry everyday and then every other day and then every week. Remember to keep yourself busy. If you want to chat do let me know. Let's help each other out. Btw EY1 you're a gem 😘
Similar situation OP! I just cannot believe that he let go something so good...we had our issues, but I think what we had was worth fighting for. Been 3 months now. I have traveled, work out 2 hours a day, tried meditating, gone out and done things that I would normally never have done to keep myself busy. I am not saying it gets easier, even today when I am trying to sleep or sitting on a train/plane, I tear up...but yes, like everyone else said it helps to keep busy. Happy to chat if you'd like! We'll get through this! Our ex's are good people, which is why we liked them...but it just was not meant to be.
OP - if you are in NYC, let me know if you wanna grab a drink. Or just want me to give you a hug. Have been through it. Almost everyone goes through it at some point. I feel your pain, but trust me you'll come out of it stronger and will later be glad that it happened.
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Thanks guys, as you guys were responding yesterday I kept on crying. For the time being I forgot all my pain. Can't thank you enough. May God bless you all
You have made the last call to her. Move on. Go workout, watch some tv. Hang out with your friends. Call mom.
ZCP. Zero Contact Protocol. Now. If you/she really wanna be friends that would be swell in like a decade. Really, really hard, not minimizing that but completely needed for sanity.
It's never going to happen for you while you are still talking to her. I know it feels good for a fleeting second when she contacts you, like she still needs you, and like you might get together again, but it's not gonna happen. And it ruins everything else, because you're checking your phone, thinking "what if she writes exactly while I'm out doing xyz?" It's impossible to move on like this.
^^ I'm in NYC let's all get drinks!
Me too!!! Yay!
She is still in touch and comes to me whenever she needs help and I go out of my way to help her. I tried talking to other girls but I just don't feel like talking to someone new. How do I cope with this? Please help me
As you guys are responding I'm just shedding tears thinking you guys don't even know me and u are sympathizing with me and she doesn't even care and can't feel my pain. I am just emotionally so weak and unstable and being mentally tortured. I'm at fault starting this relationship. Suicidal thoughts are coming but when I think of my mother, I can't do it