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I’m having a major surgery this week and my sister told me she couldn’t make it because she does have enough vacation days left for the year and she wants to save them in case we go on vacation later in the year. I’m livid.

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I am honestly disappointed at some of the comments here. OP mentioned she is having a MAJOR surgery and people are asking for additional context. OP you have every right to be upset. Her sister has no other excuse other than she wants to save her vacation days. This is her sister we are talking about not just some random friend. If my sister wanted me by her side for a major or even a minor surgery, I would make sure I try my best to be there for her. Value your family while they are alive!!

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Agreed! Some of the responses are bizarre. Family comes first . Sorry OP your sister is being selfish. As others suggested you should talk to her and convey your disappointment whenever you feel up to it. I wish you all the good health and speedy recovery ❤️

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I would be too, OP!

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Why does she need to go? Do you need a ride?

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It’s a car ride home which a friend could do. It sounds like the sister probably has a valid reason not to and doesn’t see it as being a major surgery and that it doesn’t need her to travel to to help. OP sounds like she hasn’t conveyed the seriousness of the surgery if the sister isn’t willing to travel to drive the sister home.

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Maybe she doesn’t understand how important it is for her to be there?

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I am sorry. I would be super livid. Do you have any friends that could help you.

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OP I'm sorry people here are not being supportive. Not sure if this is true for you, but last time I had a procedure that required general anesthesia, the hospital would not allow me to leave without having someone there to drive me home. Your sister is being selfish. People here may get mad or disagree, but if you google the definition of selfish, it's pretty black and white - she is choosing her own personal pleasure over providing you with support. We all make selfish decisions sometimes, but I find your example to be particularly upsetting. I would give yourself some time to cool down and find a suitable replacement, and then calmly communicate to her how you feel. Not all of us live in cities/towns where we have large support networks. Given COVID, I would imagine your options may be more limited than usual. I hope you find someone and the procedure goes well.

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I don’t know what some are saying but I’d be pissed if my sister bailed on me last minute like that! Surgery is surgery and family should be there! I would have a serious conversation about how this makes you feel and have her understand how selfish she is being! Especially when she was able to take 2 days off to go hiking 🤦🏻‍♀️ 😡

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Thanks everyone!! I’m all better today. I found a friend to accompany me to an from the hospital so that’s taken care of. As for my sister, I’ll speak to her about it later as I don’t want to harbor any resentment towards her! Have a good day and be kind!

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