I’m having a really hard time dating—would appreciate advice on how to find someone who makes me happy. Contemplating moving but am not sure if that is going to change things for me. Been in DC (cont)

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Also a QPOC! DC has the most blah dating pool I've ever experienced in my life. I've lived in Chicago and NYC solo and I've found way more quality relationships there.

But if looking on apps for someone that has three pics of themselves, one with a drag queen, and one with a senator does it for you... DC is great?

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In my experience the apps have taken out the romance a bit. There is no anticipation. Everyone has too many options and we are stretched thin. I still feel connections are made at gatherings and bars and pubs than midnight booty calls. But what do i know

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Forget romance, how about taken the adult out of it. For example, after chatting with a guy on an app for a bit, I’ve asked twice about meeting for coffee or something. He doesn’t respond, but soon after asks me about my 🍆 out of the blue.

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for 4 years. I’m a gay Asian man. It’s been 5 years since my last serious relationship (3 years long). Into monogamy. I go on dates (I’m on all the apps) but have a hard time finding chemistry with others. I do a lot of social activities to meet people, I exercise and have a good body and decent looks. As a person of color I don’t get as much attention as I do on the west coast and am thinking I need a change of geography, but want to make sure I’ve considered all my options before giving up a city and group of friends that I love. Thank you!

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I live on the west coast and still don’t get attention from guys. I thought I look pretty cute. Well, at least that’s what my friends keep telling me 🙃

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The west coast isn’t any different.
This issue exits for both gay and straight people, it’s the same everywhere

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I’m in DC and have similar issues. A lot of flakes and power-hungry folks over here which is a turnoff for me - if you don’t work on The Hill they don’t have time for you ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Kinda want to move back to NYC...

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Sorry OP. I‘m in NY and can definitely relate to this... would love to know what you mean by “having a hard time finding chemistry"

Gay POC here as well and always wondered the same. Having worked on projects in US, EU and APAC, I am saddened to see how superficial and flaky the dating scene is in the US. Sorry, not really answering your question but I think if you can have a good social life and work in the West Coast, make the move. It's more important to have good friends and family around and the rest follows.

I'm in the same boat - female fish in DC and have little to no luck dating!

Move to NY. You'll love it here

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